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writes: Dear Cupid,Over a decade ago, my ex-husband and I divorced. It was a hurtful divorce. I was able to move on, however, he is related to my brother in law, which means he is active in my sister and brother in laws life. I am extremely close to my sister.He has asked questions about me, said he wanted to see me and my children and even wanted to check in on my mother. We have not spoken to him in over 14 years.Knowing it is inevitable that we will see each other (I recently moved back into the area after a 15 year absence), I decided it was best to put things aside, apologize for my contribution and resolve feelings in order to be able to live "amicably" if nothing else for the sake of our family. However, when asked if he could call me, he simply said he couldn't and could not go there, citing that his current wife would go "nutty".I really want everyone to be comfortable at family functions without feelings from over 15 years ago to interfere when they should be buried. I have no romantic feelings for him, nor do I have hate.I am married, happily, for 7 years and have 2 beautiful children.Can you give me some insight on what I can do? Does he still have feelings for me...asking about me, then refusing me?Please help..."going nuts in Georgia"
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2005): Hi sweety. If you have to see your ex ocassionally then it is best if in front of children it can be as amicable as possible.Just remember though that now you are happily married with children so even if he does still have feelings for you they don`t mean he wants you back. Accept that the past is exactly that: The Past, and should stay there.I hope this helps a little. Take care.
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