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writes:i feel there is no point in me trying to change.i am too depressed to hurt to bothar.i feel there is no point in me like any guy because any guy in all my years has rejected.torn my heart out it has been done to many times i don,t think i can another year of the same treatment.i don,t feel losing weight because i feel it make any difference.i am nearly 30 yaers i haven't been kissed for god sake.it going to happen again if i try again,i don,t want to try any more.when a guy doesn,t fancy me he doesn,t no matter how i try to convince him .i am just wasting time.on rubbish project.whe it comes to me guys just rather some eles may be thats the way it suppose to be. may be that how it is for me.strange phenomenon for me ad i just have to cope with the fact i am loser and rejected for what left of 20s that which was joke .i am joke every guy laughting at me and thanking there lucky stars that they didn,t ask out a yolk like and don,t want to be seen with me. may be i don,t deserve to be loved and they do.guys have always treated me 3rd rate to other girls.they want to out with younger girls who are prettier, tall ,slim and great size bust well i can,t compete with that,i frankly don,t care any more i have had it and i am sick of it.its all what the guys want and what they want is what they get.
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (16 December 2008):
 Hunny
If you really felt you didn't want to do something about this I don't believe you would have asked for help. Yes we can get so very depressed that we don't want to be bothered to do anything..But starting by doing little things at a time will get you out of the depression and help you to feel better within. You don't want to feel like this any more, I really feel for you love as I've felt very depressed before and no I wouldn't wish to feel like that again. I started by slowly healing myself, And getting the help I needed..The point is to make you feel good, To make you feel better about yourself. Take a look at the links I sent sweetheart they are very good and one step at a time..But do it for you. GET THE BELIEF BACK IN YOU FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!TAKE CARE WITH LOTS OF HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): orginal post:
what the point i can,t make a guy fancy me so whats the points guys just aren,t intersted in me.i have tried.
but they can charm girls to fancy them and find them sexual attractive is a trick i don,t ow to learn.
males won,t give me any advice only smart remarks.
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (15 December 2008):
Hi Sweetheart
Please don't give up on yourself, I can feel from your post how very depressed you are and I'm going to say to you rather than concentrate on guys right now concentrate on you...You need to find that confidence and self esteem that you have lost hunny you need to get some help for your depression and really start working on making you happier with who you are...
I'm putting in some links to help you love.
http://www.selfesteem4women.com/index.php
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/gaining-self-confidence-tips-you-need-to-know.html
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/145602/how_to_fight_depression_daily_habits.html?page=1&cat=72
There are many things you can do to help yourself feel better and happier. Forgetting about meeting someone for now and just focusing on your needs will pay off if you can persevere...You say that you don't feel like loosing weight as it will make no difference (I hope I got that right love) But If you are talking about these things making a difference to others then no it wont it will only make the difference if you do these things for YOU!!!!!!!!!!Making yourself feel better is the key, Stop looking at other women and feeling you are less than they are, This is not true, We all have good quality's its thinking positivity and believing in who we are that gives us our strength and confidence..I'm sending you one more link that was written on the board by a young man, This coming from a male perspective I feel can help..... http://www.dearcupid.org/question/girls-what-if-you-dont-have-the-perfect.html
These links are very helpful sweetheart, It will take time I would suggest you also see a counsellor for your depression, If you need a chat at any time please message me WITH LOTS OF LOVE HUGS AND PRAYERS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, SDJ +, writes (15 December 2008):
 I can tell that you are very insecure about yourself and that isn't going to help you at all. Being confident about yourself can be very attractive to some men. Don't feel downhearted just because you haven't been kissed, who cares about what age you are? Wouldn't you rather wait for the right person to share your first special kiss with or would you rather kiss any stranger that offers you it? This isn't embarrassing either so don't worry. A lot of men find women that haven't done anything a 'bonus' or a challenge. You shouldn't change because if you find someone after you've changed then they'll be with you for someone you're not. I'm sure you aren't depressed, you've probably had a bad time recently and are feeling very pessimistic. Believe in the saying that: 'there is someone for everyone.' because it's true.
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