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writes:Ok, it is soo complicated...I was with my ex for a year and a half.... just 3months ago he broke up with me...but we are still such good friends because we were soo close when we were together..when I see him we nearly always kiss and if the oppertunity is there sleep together..I know that it is soo wrong and I shouldnt be doing it but I love this guy soo much I dont want him gone from my life and an oppertunity to be with him makes me so happy while it lasts...I was his first girlfriend, so Ive got it into my head that he just needs to go live the college life but that we will end up back together...Im so deluded and I know it but underneath the cocky sometimes not so nice person he has become I know that great guy I fell in love with is still there... I cry soo much over this like and all I want to do is chat with him when I know I shouldnt be ....HELP!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do go out with friends and try meet new people or whatever but It always comes back to him..I get emotonal when Im out drinking because someone always brings him up..I get days that I just dont want to go on anymre cause the pain is too much to bare...it is soo much easier said then done to stop talkin to him-this guy was the love of my life..i cant just let go...
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Honey, you need to see other people. He's taking advantage of your friendship to sleep with you etc. I know it's hard and believe me, I've been in the same boat, but you need a distraction that will help you gradually get over him. But, first off, stop sleeping with him. You don't have to stop hanging out with him right off, but please, stop that intimacy. Sleeping with him will only make it harder to move on. Go on dates with other men, keep yourself busy and active so you're not with him so much.
That's how I got over my ex. I used to cry a lot, miss him, and want him back. And he still treated me like a girlfriend when he broke up with me so I kept hoping and hoping. That hurt more than not having him at all. So honey, do your best to end this shadow of a relationship. If he wants to get back together, ok. But, don't allow to get the benefits of a relationship without being a couple anymore. Best of luck
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 February 2010):
I'm sorry, but this guy is just using you. There is no way he will come back to you. I'm afraid he's just using you. He was never a nice guy. He is a cocky man who isn't nice and uses people. So you have a choice. Either you can sit there an be nothing to this man, or you can cut contact and be someone very important to another. The only way you will get over him is to cut all contact and stop being used.
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reader, forever friend +, writes (28 February 2010):
 this must be hard for you, i still love my ex too huni in fact he called me recently and all the feelings were still there he asked to see me but i knew i could easily want to be close to him again if i met up with him and this is risky for MYSELF so i told him that it wasnt a gud idea cuz i knew if we did get back together we wil never be the same, there was alot of damage done in my relationship and he wasnt good to me, unfortunatly it doesnt mean i stopped loving him . but one day i will be ok and so will you believe in yourself and invest in your self at this crucial time go out and enjoy yourself it does help cuz im in the same boat, your still so young huni there will be other men if this doesnt work.
what im trying to say is if you and your ex have something special and you BOTH feel like you want to give it another go then thats cool go for it
but if HE broke up with you and he doesnt talk about getting back together you may end up getting really hurt like this and even feeling used, unless he feels the same.he might just taking advantage of your love and secretly looking for someone else at the same time who knows. actions speak louder than words with men, has he EXPRESSED that he wants to get back with you, if not then really i wudnt sleep with him at all and be lovers cuz UR the one whos gonna get really heartbroken when he tells you he has found someone else he wants to be with, dont let this happen to you huni cuz its the pits believe me ive been there. untill he wants you and only you and expresses this,i think you know deep down sleeping with him feels bad in this situation and is bad for your self worth cuz your not a proper couple so take a step back and protect yourself ok huni, really hope u look after yourself and things turn out well for you huni
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