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anonymous
writes:Hi me and my bf have been together almost two years..In the beginning it was absolutely wonderful. So romantic he showered me with attention. Even had our problems with jealousy and trust issues for the last for months. I recently went to riverside for two weeks and when I was gone he told me how much he loved and missed me and couldn’t wait to see me. But when I came back it was the opposite we use to talk on the fone for hours and I thought it would be even more because I was away but instead we talk for 30mins every two day which is crazy for us. He always has to get off the fone now..I remember when I was the most important at that time..He’ll call me and say hell call me right back then never does..He text me the next day and apologize and when I text back he wont even reply. Sometime ill call and hell promise to call back an I won’t hear from him for two days. Sometimes when we miss each other well send pics to each other and he usually tells me how beautiful I am but this time I get nothing not even a reply..that can really hurt a gurls self esteem...and so many guys show me the attention I want from him everyday and I find myself seeking the attention I want from him in them I know that stupid.and I don’t want to be unfaithful.but my friend says why spend energy on someone who doesn’t want to be around you when you have people who do..And that’s true ..He hasn’t seen me in a month!!! we have been busy but not like this.and when he does give me even a little attention I'm so happy but it doesn’t last long then I'm back feeling terrible .he turns me on and off like a light switch and I hate being so in love with him what is a girl to do when the man she loves wont even call. I’m not sure if I should let this go or hold on..but I find myself pushing him away now because I'm so hurt..tonight when he called I didn’t even answer the phone.....we’ve invested so much in this relationship...2 years...what should I do...I know he loves me and I just don’t have any evidence he's been seeing someone else and trust me I've looked lol....I’m not really a needy person its just he’s so different with me than he use to be...too big of a change....anyone with any advice please give your opinion...guys what does this mean? Women has this ever happened to you??
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): Talk to him about it, let him know how you feel and tell him you're suspicious that he's interested with someone else. Watch how he responds, if he really cares he will try to change. Maybe he's just to comfortable now with you. Wake him up, and let him know this is not okay. If he's still in love with you and cares about your feelings he will make an effort.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 September 2010):
 When the cat's away the mouse will play.
First thing that jumped out at me was he was fine this whole time until you came back from riverside..that tells me there is someone else. He's not necessarily cheating but there is someone who he has taken an interest in. Communication sucks and he hasn't seen you in a month...you're constantly making the effort whereas he's not. You got a smart friend, why do you want to be with someone who isn't even keeping up the basic maintenance of a relationship, much less giving you the attention you deserve? Every time I go on a trip, my boyfriend (now husband) would be on me like a leech when I came back and he's not the clingy type..the man likes his space. My point is if he loved and missed you then he would be on you like white on rice the minute you came back..but he's not which leads me to believe with that big of change there is someone else and that your relationship is about to expire. You've only been with him for 2 years that's a lot but at the same time it's not...if it's the end of the road you got accept it for what it is. I would suggest try talking to him about it but he doesn't even return your calls/texts so that's not even an option.
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