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writes:K to understand how I am asking this question understand how I am approaching this topic. I am a 25-year-old male B/F American who has done some good and some bad thus far in his life. My character has been labeled as respected, honorable, dependable, powerhouse, understanding, and at times, know it all ass hole (Hey, what can you do?) who is loved and loves the world back. Most people see me as strong with very little in weakness (or maybe no one wants to tell me I do not know.) who face through anything. Alas, this not true, I have many flaws as any man or woman does but, this is neither a flaw or a weakness in the sense of physically, but in me sub and conciseness it is one of my flaws. I have blamed it on my genetics that my size is so small, though on the surface most women when seeing me suspect I am Mandingo, so um yeah can you see my issue? Being three inches never bothered me (if this becomes a turn on story I am sorry on one end and no problem on the other, Gemini baby: P.) until this one day. I was in a (we will just say) place and one of the kids (we will call him kid-A) called me out my room and asked me show my *insert your choice word*. So thinking I was the biggest in my head (for the fact that I never been asked nor would have normally shown mine to guy let alone seen another’s at this age) I said no just out of being shy after the whole pressure and the whole “You first” ordeal I seen that the kid-A was about my size somewhat. I did not really mind until he mentioned he was not “hard” or erect (you pick) and I notice he was about 5 to 6 inches. He whispered to kid (kid-B) next to him to come to his door as well who under pre text is the largest of all. Kid-B showed his willing and it just blew me away (We were 13-15 btw sorry I failed to mention that.) I had never seen anyone that size before. I guess the insecurity set in right there they reassured me that I was the third as the kid next to me was much smaller or about the same (Like that helped)Over the year’s, I ignored the thoughts and felt it would be ok but my lifestyle at the time (messed up child hood) would place in a different place where I was among other kids who were from the same lifestyle. Troubled youths all in one hell hold (These places never help by the way, only, make us worse) that forced some of us into temporary insanity. The youth I speak of had a breakdown from abuse, neglect, not being understood and heard. I watch as he snapped and they ended up locking him down (you should know where I was now.) When they did this he caused a ruckus and ended up having every guy in the dorm looking in his window I even ended looking and I notice that is size was that of a grown mans (explains the 23 year old girlfriend he had.)i.e. growing up when I was kid I seen my step-fathers at the time whose when soft was the same size and girth. I again (and along with a few others) felt weak and feeble. Also I was 15 at this point newly into 13 at the beginning point. I have seen so many different sizes, looked this topic up and all I ever get is 5-6 is average and that is enough. So it comes down that 5-6 inches are enough but anyone lower are playing the “You had better hope you get a lucky one”?*The anger begins* (let it be clearly noted, the anger fuels from so much confusion.)I see so much here and in the world, I hear this, I heat that. I hear from older mature women; “Hunny, you have more then enough.”, one time only so far “Your perfect” (I almost flipped but it went south due to other issues), “Size isn’t the issue for some, its how you use it.”Younger; “I need about average to get me off”, I don’t need much”, “I don’t know”. I have heard so many things but honest-if-I-was-to-say-right-now answers I have only gotten one (the one that made me flip). I believe most women feel this way, because they, like men, are caught into the hype of size. I just want honestly that are not trying to tell me something to feel good, but to be real with me so I know what I am walking into. I have had a six hiatus from any sexually endeavor for the fact that it caused excessively much confusion for me and the women of the world today. I fall for passion and getting to know someone sex is a bit much for someone like me to just go out and do. Even while drinking I hold myself to a higher standing. I have to live with myself at the end of the day so I like the idea of saying I am not just some meat out here for some women to use or others to feel used by. But the fact remains though for that day if not for me for someone else, how do women really feel about it. I have had no fear of being honestly with women about my size for the most part once they get to know me, but for the issue I have faced I have turn to dating online in LD relationships. Also I notice that is question is all over the place and I kind of answered my own answer but I still need that outside source. Women that see this I have honored the ground you walk on since I could understand your emotions (That would be around 5 I believe) I ask the same back in your answers. My name is in and out cause after this, I will no longer post here. This is for the men and women who need honest pure answers so they know how to progress in the future. Good Morning to all Mr. in and out *insert V's exit*
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reader, Marielana28 +, writes (27 September 2010):
Honestly, I like thickness more than length. Length is more of a problem than a good thing. But, having said that, we all have something to agonize about via 'not measuring up'... boobs, butt, height, weight, it goes on and on. Being a good lover and a sensual lover makes up for any other shortcoming. Do not fret, but learn the woman's anatomy and how to give her an O, and you will be adored as if you are on a pedestal!! xo
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reader, inandout +, writes (19 September 2010):
inandout is verified as being by the original poster of the question I would like to thank everyone who answered and no I have not consider such things. A novel has not crossed my mind I guess. Thank you all it has made me feel far stronger as a person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): I prefer a smaller man. My ex, i guess you could say was 'hung like a horse' and sent me to the hospital. I never looked at him the same. I was always so scared to do anything with him. With an average man as you would say, is so much better.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Have you ever thought of writing a novel, I found your story interesting reading. I'm sure with your humour you will muddle through with a woman who loves you. Hope this helps.
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reader, Beingblack +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Young man, please stop worrying about yourself. All I will say is that if it works, and can do the job, why worry? If a woman ever tells you during sex that she can feel nothing, then that is the time to frown. Until then, do not create a problem where none exists.
Use your fingers, tongue, knees, armpits, whatever to get your woman off first. Then use that magnificent Mandingo frame to good effect, get up on your arms and grind your penile bone against her pelvic bone/clitoris during intercourse.
You could be hung like a mule, or small as an ant, the bone against the clitoris (gently or hard - listen to the moans) works like a charm.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): Everyone's different, some women prefer bigger, some smaller. Personally, I prefer smaller. I've only had one lover and could never appreciate sex because he went way too deep. I'd luv a smaller man :p
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