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writes:OK I posted a question a while ago about having a fall out with one of my closest friends because I loved them. Unconditionaly and irrevocably. (thanks for the replys)He wants us to be friends again and this is all I've ever wanted after months of depression. He knows I wont be able to get over him straight away as I have liked him for 2 years but I said I'd do what ever it takes to be friends again.He is getting better. He's giving me eye contact and smiling his smile that stops my heart but he's still not the same as he was to me.I still can't get over him and I'm not sure he relises that but I want to do whatever it takes to make this relationship work.I just want him to go back to being the guy I used to know and be friends with he's making and effort but how do I get us to be closer? I don't want to push him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Who  +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Relax, all he needs is a little time. He feels a little funny about things after finding out how you felt about him. It will take while to get used to this, but not too long.
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reader, confusednkentucky +, writes (28 April 2009):
I love you are strong words, and females are more emotional than males, you probably freaked him out, my advice is go slow, if you like hangin out with him, be cool with just that, don't get hung up on the relationship part, guys are more immature than girls too, have fun, flirt, talk and keep it care free, try not to force things, friendship is at the base of any relationship and it's more important than just being able to call someone your BF, so it may seem like your settling, but that's ok, and don't over analyze his every comment or action, try to tone it down and just value him as a friend, there's things he must like about you, cause he came back around, but i'd say take it slow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): He is probably wary. He probably wants to be friends again, but is worried that he will give you the wrong impression. Maybe he is finding the situation a bit awkward.
I think the issue here though is that you want him back as a friend...but you already admit that you are not over him, and that you still more from him. If you did go back to being friends again, do you think you could handle seeing him and wanting more from the friendship, but knowing that he doesn't? Or will it be too painful for you? If so, then maybe you need some space from this guy. Not forever, but just until you can feel some distance from the situation.
I think you are right to try not to push him though. This situation will need to unfold in its own time.
Good luck. x
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