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writes:ok so i've been with my boyfriend nearly 3 months. Overall he's a nice guy and we get along good. But a little over a week ago we had sex for the first time in our relationship (his first time ever) and for the next day or so everything was peachy. Then suddenly he quits calling me and when I'd see him he would act disinterested in me and ignore me. He blew me off when we were supposed to hang out and the one day I did spend time with him it felt like he just wanted me to leave. I have no clue what I did wrong! I tried to talk to him about it and he got really defensive saying nothing was wrong. He was not very convincing... Another aspect is that one of my best friends/a girl he used to like just moved back in to town around the same time he started acting this way. I'm not sure if this is related. Anywho I really just want to go back to how we were before he started being a jerk. What can I do ? I really like this guy. thanks ! btw I haven't been bugging him about this un till today but I think he knows I'm bothered. What can I do to fix this ?
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (8 February 2011):
 Is it possible he's embarrassed at his performance? You said it's his first time, but it sounds like it wasn't yours. Was he clumsy or too fast or did he make stupid sounds? Coule he just feel like an idiot and be avoiding you since he feels stupid?
Or is this a line he didn't want to cross before marriage and he's feeling guilty for breaking that rule?
Maybe he even just feels bad for pressuring you into it (even if he just thinks he did) and is afraid you'll hate him now for his loss of control.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 February 2011):
This is not a good sign. I don't think you did anything wrong. I think the problem might be that all he wanted was sex. Even worse is that the other girl came back too. I think you need to bother him a bit and find out what's happening.
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