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writes:I don't know what to do with my relationship with my boyfriend. I asked him if he sees us living together and having a family,and he says he wants kids one day. Lately I just feel he just wants things to stay the way they are. We have not done anything together in a while and I just end up feeling I am by myself. I told him I love him, and he could not say the same thing back to me, he said its a touchie subject for him. I used to stay the nite with him a lot and have not in a while, and I see the other nite he went out to viste a gal he used to see. Last time I was with him we has sex and after he got up and went on his computer so I left with out saying good bye. He did come meet my friends, my family, and bought me gift, I thought we were going some where maybe I am wrong? Am I his fun on the side now or does he want things to stay the way they are? We have been together a year now. What would you do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Meesh76  +, writes (29 April 2012):
 Hi,it sounds to me like this relationship may have run its course. You have been together a year which is long enough to be moving things along if it's what you both want. I was in a similar situation with my ex boyfd. We lived seperate lives and just fitted each other in where we could. This is fine to start with as you don't want to rush into something but I think you are at the point where you either need to make a commitment to each other or call it a day and move on. I am sure there are other options out there for you and you could be missing out on Mr Right whilst stressing over this guy. The thing about men is they are not very good at tackling things head on they secretly like all the decisions made for them as its less hassle. You need to take control, put your cards on the table and if you don't get a positive response then make the decision that is best for you. Good luck.
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reader, Jesslirai  +, writes (25 April 2012):
 you ask what i would do so i will answer honestly,
I would sit him down and confront him on the things that were bothering me. I would ask him if he is happy in the relationship, and also ask where he would see you guys down the road a couple of years. If his answers arent matching up with yours or you get lousy answers such as "its touchy" or "i dont feel like talking about it" something is obviously wrong. Suggest counseling if you desire to make it work, but if you feel as empty as his answers then i would let it go and move onto someone who is as interested in the relationship as you seem to be.
With the information you gave I feel as though he's just not into this like you are, and maybe breaking up with him and seeing other people would be a good thing, maybe it would even make your guy realize what he lost. Your only a year into this relationship and your still young enough to settle down and find a good relationship. Hope i could help you, best of luck and i truly hope you find what you are looking for.
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