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writes:I was involved with someone for over ten years and over the years that we were together we broke up numerous times. It seemed that everytime I asked where are relationship was going he would find a million and one reasons why he did not feel comfortable taking our relationship to the next level. In January 2007 he told me he was confused and wasn't sure how he felt about me. Since January we have continued the "physical aspect" of our relationship. We had an agreement between us that if we met someone else and it became serious we would discuss it. My ex continues to call basically 2-5 times a week and he hounds me with questions like where were you when I called? Who were you with? He has told me that he is not in the position to tell me that i can't see someone else. He always tells me that he hasn't had one date since we broke up because he doen't know where his head is. I don't understand what he wants from me and it's driving me crazy. Approximately one month ago i met someone very special and he is truly incredible and very patient with me. We have not been intimate with each other to date. I find myself drawn to this man and I can clearly see a future with him. Problem is I can't find the right words within myself to tell my ex that I've moved on. I don't want to lose his friendship but I need to be fair. We had this agreement but still I don't know how to tell him. Please help. At a loss for words
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2007): A friend of mine had a similar experience. Have you ever thought that he may have been on the site to see if you had been active? Just as you checked on him maybe he was checking on you? Don't kick him to the curb just yet, don't sleep with him until you are really 100% certain of his intentions. At the moment I would go out and have some fun with this guy, it always takes a while to learn to trust someone new.
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reader, fem1966 +, writes (20 May 2007):
fem1966 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi There... So this is an update on my dating drama. I was all set to tell the ex that I met someone else but now there is a twist... Ahh the plot thickens.. The guy I've been seeing I met through a online dating service. Since we met over one month ago neither one of us has logged onto our online dating account. If you were to do a online search of each member on this site it will show you when they were last active on the site. The only reason I even logged on to my account was to delete it all together. Today I logged onto my account and noticed he was active within 24 hours.(Previously he was not active on the site for over 3 weeks) Is this guy playing me? He tells me last night that he's falling in love with me. I'm supposed to go over to his house tonight and the thought was that we might be intimate for the first time. Now I'm thinking about kicking him to the curb. Please help.. Thanks
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reader, Trev +, writes (18 May 2007):
 Sounds like your ex has the both of best worlds. Gets to have sex when he wants, do what he wants, with no responsibilty. Make yourself happy again and give yourself some respect by telling your ex to hit the road. Keep in mind how selfesh he has been to you. That shouldn't make breaking up with an ex all that difficult.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2007): you should tell your ex you've moved on. wish him the best, cherish the memories, and that you've found someone who is clearly The One. good luck!!
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