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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Here's the situation: I've been dating this wonderful girl for the past 3 months and they've been great! We have a lot in common and love being around one another :)The only problem is the relationship I was in previously was a devastating one where this girl I truly loved; lied consistently and eventually cheated on me. I think because of this relationship I am having trust issues in my present relationship :/ My new girlfriend has mostly guy friends and a best friend from high school that is a guy. I've never met him...P.S.-She told me they made out and "messed around" in bed too :/I know that I am different from her past boyfriends in that she's never been with a guy as long as we have right now, she lost her virginity to me, and I'm the first boyfriend she says she's ever said I Love You too :) She really is a very trustworthy person...really but how can I get over my trust issues and not constantly ask questions about her past boyfriends/ guy friends, and her drunk nights at the bar with some of her guy friends? Thanks for any experience in this area... I love her back but I know if I can't get over this issue, we'll never last. :/
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reader, Mr.Mo Rality +, writes (6 April 2009):
Dear "To Trust or Not To Trust"I really get the idea that you love this girl. And she told you about the guy that she "messed around" with, which means she is not going to hold anything back from you. How many girls would tell their current boyfriends about their previous ones. The last girl hurt you that is obvious, but all that means is she was a whore, plain and simple, but this woman seems very important to you and you to her. You should start trusting her even though you are afraid. It is going to be hard. Just remember time heals all. Do not be afraid to trust. Just go with the flow and live and love and all that comes with.Sincerely, Mr. Mo RalityP.S. What a corny nickname isn't it: Mo Rality, sound like I need advice on nicknames. lol
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