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writes:so...here's my story. i like this guy. i'v known him since i was 6. we were best friends. and he lives more than 90 miles away. in 6th grade i went out with him a few times. and for the past two years i've been sad, depressed, and obsessed over him. he said he loved me [this may sound a bit ridiculous to people older than me--im13..] but he said that when we wer in 7th grade. and i think i love him too. but that was last year. this year i still like him and i've been crying because i think he likes my best friend and not me. but 2 weeks ago i saw him and he kissed me and said"thats for not giving up". im not entirely sure what to do. if i should stalk the girls at his school or if i should remain silent and let myself be miserable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys! i talked to him and he said he didn't like me anymore. but you know; when it comes to love, you just can't help it. i'm falling for him real hard and he's not gonna catch me. i can't stop myself and it's just so hard for me. i can't give up, not after all this pain.
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (27 November 2009):
 Why would you stalk the girls at his school? You dont have to be miserable in silence either. You have history with this guy, presumably you can talk to him? Let him know how you feel, and ask him whether he feels the same way. I know its a scary thing to do, but at least then you won't be stuck worried and wondering. If he feels the same, then thats great, but if he doesn't then you can start to get over him and move on, stop being miserable thinking about what could be and starting looking for other things to enjoy in life :) good luck!
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reader, maybmad +, writes (27 November 2009):
hi there. well i certainly don't think you should stalk the girls at his school! The 2 of you have been friends forever it seems, and love hurts no matter what age you are, especially love unreturned. All i can say to you is that most boys of his age don't know what they want one minute to the next and as for you, you shouldn't be obsessing with anyone. you should just be enjoying your life with your friends. meeting other boys. This guy is probably not the man your going to spend the rest of your life with, you've got so many experiences that lie ahead of you. But, of course there are those cases where the first love is the only love. Who knows. All i can really say to you for sure is that you should just let it play out. don't try to force anything. don't let him overshadow your life now. have fun being you and if he is the one for you, you will end up together no matter what. if he's not the one (which, lets be honest, he probably isn't), then the 'one' is out there, waiting for you, eventually you will find eachother and that is a very exciting journey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): You should remain silent, but not miserable. You are still a child, w/so many guys ahead in your life, be prepared to fall in love many times.No guy should make you miserable, or play w/your mind. Live your life happy, and the right guy will come along. Good luck.
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