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writes:is it possible to be in love with two people at once? i know u can love two people at once, but can someone be in love with two peops at once? any opinions? my friends girlfriend recons she's torn b'cus she is inlove with two men. is it possible?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): I think all these posted answers would change if the shoe was on the other foot. If responders found out that they were 1 of 2...or worse yet, 2 of 2...being loved I think the amount of thier love would change in order to be loved completely. I have been to this movie and it caused nothing but heartache. I tried to rationalize it...hence my appearance here. No one person can fulfill all my desires/wants? No, but neither can you fill theirs so now where are you? Everyone is being "friendship" with multiple people especially if you consider both of the people you love also love 2 people...it is endless madness and futility.
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reader, Babbieface  +, writes (13 April 2008):
It is very possible, even if not practical, to be in love with two or more people at once. Currently, I am in love with 2 men. One of them I have been married to for 17 years. The other man I have known for over 24 years. I have not been in seen the other man in 20 years, but when I saw him again the old feelings came back. I am truly torn between the two, but have enough honor to concentrate on the man who has been with me for 17 years and break my heart all over again over the man who should not be there, even though he clearly is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): yes it is possible but it is very difficult to carry off because if you are with one person some time you cant be with the other at the same time and in love spending time together honestly and uniquely matters a lot so its good to be with one person rather than two as on a day to day basis a lot of feud could be created because of the preferences you make
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2007): To love two people at once is possible I believe because I love two people. I am married to the one of them and he is wonderful. The other one I met before my husband, we dated when we were teenagers, but we lived too far away from one another to carry it on, so it moved to friendship instead. That friendship has lasted 17 years now. Besides the fact that we now live in different countries and only seen each other about 4 times in 17 years, does not stop our love and letters to each other. I am very happily married with kids, but he was not so lucky, he is still single and hoping to rekindle our relationship. I wonder how one can love two people but it does happen. It is not the same love that I have for my husband and my friendship with the other is only friendship, no affair has ever happened between us. We call it a magical bond that will always keep us friends and only friends. No matter how far away we are from one another, our love friendship is always there, and has been for 17 years. We both need each other in our lives and my husband understands and trusts me enough not to let it worry him. So loving two people is easy, but hard aswell, I am living it. My husband and kids come first and that is the choice I made and my friend understands it but does not like it very much. Loving two people can happen, I don't recommend it but it can happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2007): I have to say I do believe that it is possible to be in love with to people at once. There are many different forms of Love. I know that I am in Love with to people and I think that I will be for as long as I live. I am married to a Loving and wonderful man whom I could not imagine my self or my life with out. But as he also knows I love my best friend( who is also another man) just as deeply, but in a little different way.
I have been friends with lets just call him buddy since I was a little girl. He was the cutest boy I had ever laid eyes on, and he grew into one of the best looking men I know. So there is the initial attraction which is what all relationships start with. We started talking and one way or another became best friends when we were 6. We thought about dating in high school but soon figured out that if we did it might end badly and then where would we be. So we went on as we were, through collage, marriage, and having children(with other people) and we grew up. The Love that we felt all those years ago didn't go away it's still there and present. It has now just changed a bit. I guess 30 years will do that.
I know to some that my story might sound strange but I Need both of these men in my life. They are both part of me as I am a par of them. They are the parts that make me whole, they know it and they don't care because they both know what the other means to me. My husband knows that there is never a chance that I would be unfaithful to him and my friend is my love, but not in that way. Some one once told me that they thought that I was basically cheating on my husband with my friend, because of the intimacy that I share with him. I laughed and said that was ridicules. I them asked the question,” Would you be so inclined to pass that judgment if I was like everyone else and my best friend was female?”
It is the best part of human nature to love and be loved. Never take the Loves in you life for granted. There are not many stories like mine, but either way be honest with the people in your life and be honest with your self and you will find the answers that you seek.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): I've learned in my 36yrs that life has alot of gray areas and that things can be complicated.
Yes, you can love two people at once, without a doubt. Now, how to work with that is hard.
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reader, sweetlilpeachx69 +, writes (23 September 2007):
she may be in love with you but i think it may be lust on both accounts (the other person ) . because i am in a relationship currently and i could never think about another man !
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): It's impossible. Your friend's gf isn't ready to love anyone, is what I think. Usually, a truthful, honest, respectful love is built on integrity and devotion to one person and is reserved for one person, at a time. So when I hear that someone states they are in love with 2 people, I think she doesn't love one of these people enough to even call it love. Infatuation, maybe, but not 'love' in the mature, respectful, committed sense. She is confused about what she really, really wants in her life. She needs to grow up and try to understand what real 'love' for a loved one, is all about. Just my opinion...take it or leave it.
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (23 September 2007):
 Sure it is. The problem is, you can have only one because as they say "two is company, three is a crowd."
A healthy relationship can only be carried on one on one not one on two. (No pun intended)
If you try to carry on a relationship it causes too much trouble and heartache all the way around.
It will be tough but you must choose between the two if you plan on being happy and in turn allowing the both of them to be happy as well. Doc.
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reader, On Cloud9 +, writes (23 September 2007):
 Anything is possible. Sounds cliche but what is to be in love?, it is very complex and I believe it depends entirely on the person. We all have our own interpretations of love and she gets something from both these men obvisouly.I have known of long term relationships where 3 people live together because they were in same situation. This worked for them because everyone in that relationship were clear where they stood, but if this girl is not being honest with both men then she is playing a silly game. perhaps she just loves attention and is in fact just into playing games. Personally though I must admit to the odd crush on a guy whilst I was in a loving relationship but that was all it was, an attraction, but never strong enough to act upon because the love I had for my partner was far too strong. Maybe that is your answer, perhaps she doesn't love either one of these men, maybe its just an attraction to both but as soon as she does fall in love with someone she will finish with them both.Whatever, her thinking, I would urge your friend to clear this up before he gets in too deep.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (23 September 2007):
 Of course its possible. All that junk about soulmates and "the one" is nothing but a crock. There are over 6 billion people in the world, I'm pretty sure you can find at 2 of them to be in love with at once.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2007): Yes, I think it is possible to have feelings for two people at once, but love is not a feeling, really, it is a concious decision to love and to BE Loving and to BE WORTHY of Love. It is to commit, it is to put the needs of your loved one above your own, it is about sacrifice and giving 110%....many people blow in the wind, hot and cold their entire lives, basing all of their actions on a feeling. Feelings are fickle, they are certainly based in our mind, and the mind is a funny thing, it can trick us in to believing something that isn't always so....
This girl may be torn, but she is not in the stage of real and lasting love, she hasn't made her choice to be a loving person to just one man....and maybe she will get there and maybe she won't....it all depends on her and what she decides, not on the two men involved.
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