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writes:Hey guys and gals...I have everything I need to live alone and independently, but that's the problem i'm living myself and it's getting lonely. I haven't had any dates in forever and somehow I feel tired all the time whenever I think about going out there to talk to girls just to get shot down. I try to look for events to attend but find that neither girls or me wants to be there. I don't feel happy even though I have my own place and do whatever and whenever I want, just like I wanted. How do I fix this problem? Thanks in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, LarryGalapagos +, writes (18 April 2010):
Hey man I was in the same boat when I was about 24. Had my own place, worked really hard, made a great living, but for some reason couldn't get a girlfriend.The solution: free online dating. I would recommend plentyoffish.com. You can literally start messaging local girls within a few minutes, and eventually you'll start exchanging phone numbers and setting up dates.And once you get back into the groove of things, you will naturally find dates from the real world as well :)Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your answer KiwiBina...but no I don't have any friends right now...the price you pay for being in the military. I moved here for a month and most of the people i work with all have family so i can't really hang out with them. Every time i move i have to redo everything from losing old friends and finding new one, and as time goes by it's getting harder and harder every time. It seems like at my age i should be marry with kids by now instead of running around looking for girls.Hey puzzlesolver...I've tried that, not looking for girls and go about doing my business but no luck in that department. Will keep on trying though...
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2010): Sometimes the harder you look, the less you find. Girls like confidence, and sense it very easily in a man. Try to maintain your composure in life and not go too out of your way to search for the right girl, and fate will take over. Alot of people don't believe that, but it really does work. If you want to go out and have fun where there are girls around, go ahead, but don't appear to be looking, but let them come to you. When girls start to see other girls talking and showing you there attention, they'll join in the competition, and you'll be a center rather than an outsider.
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reader, KiwiBina +, writes (18 April 2010):
Do you have any friends?
Perhaps you should try getting back into the relationship and social world through your friends rather than going to random events and meeting up with random girls.
This isn't really a problem to fix, it is more of a matter of fact of boosting your socialization and confidence, as well as finding the right way to meet the right girls.
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