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writes: Heya there Aunts and Uncles,So, I'm an eighteen years young rising freshman at college, my boyfriend of over a year and I are starting to make things sexual and I have very little idea what I'm doing. I didn't have much of a sex education, even in high school, at least no one ever explained how you go about doing things. I was always pegged the innocent one, but I think I'm ready to not be so innocent, and my boyfriend has been so understanding and loving that I'm shy and a little nervous but I really want to wow him so I was hoping maybe you could give me a few tips on how to really get a man going? Any and all advice is welcome Please and thank you ^_^
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (12 July 2014):
Dear OP,
I also think that it doesn't need much education to start doing this, instead you need to know your boundaries.. what you won't do. And communication. Every man is different, so it's okay to ask what he likes.
But anyway.. if you want explicit sex advice and instructions, you might want to read Lou Pagets "How to be a great lover". I read it and liked it a lot. There are also helpful illustrations in there. It covers topics such as foreplay, kissing, blow jobs, sex positions, contraception, anal sex etc.. everything there is to know, basically.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (11 July 2014):
 As you have had so little in the way of education or information, the most important thing is to read up a lot on contraception. I know that might seem a little patronizing but its amazing how many young and not so adults come to us on DC confidently claiming they are using the withdrawal method or some other type of "contraception" that is unreliable. There is a lot of good info on line nowadays. Condom use is a must and consider using other forms of Birth Control at the same time.
As for mind blowing sex, that takes experience. its unrealistic to expect your first time with this guy to be amazing as most of us have a first experience which is nervous, fumbling and sometimes, for the woman, painful.
Don't fret too much about wowing this guy just yet, learn the basics first and then allow the two of you to progress at a natural pace. He sounds understanding and patient so I doubt he will be expecting your first time to be incredible.
Mark
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 July 2014):
 I'd think it does not take anything particular to get a boy in your age rabge going, maybe the problem is how to get him NOT going :)...
Anyway, since you have a loving, patient and understanding boyfriend, and since he is the one who should get going, why don't you ask him. I know you are shy, but really it's no big deal, if you are intimate enough to DO sexual stuff, you are also intimate enough to talk about it- and if you do not have that level of closeness yet, that you can't talk about your desires comfortably- then , don't do sexual stuff because you are not ready.
Ask him just the way you told us. That you are inexperienced,and that you need help understanding and doing what rocks his world sexually. Ask him to show you, ask him to teach you. I bet there are tons of books and on line tutorials about " how to .... ( give the perfect oral, or whatnot ) " but after all it is about him, not an average guy that you don't know .Your bf may have his own favourite ways of being touched, caressed ,handled in general , his favourite moves and fantasies, and I am sure he'll be happy to share them with you.
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