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writes: Hi, i've always been an over thinker to the worst degree and tend to "live inside my head". Usually when i'm alone this tends to get worse. I'm currently trying very hard to not think about certain problems i.e. guy trouble. What i'd like to know is,does anyone out there have any tips/advice about how to keep my mind busy and not dwell on things too much? I've been trying to get outdoors as much as possible which has helped a bit. Also i tend to think the worst is going to happen and would like any advice on thinking more positively. If anyone has any ideas i'd be most gratefull. Reply to this Question
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (19 October 2010):
When you find your mind wandering or worrying, do something if you can. Watch t.v., read a book, call a friend. If you're stuck in a situation where you can't distract yourself with a task like that (say you're walking or driving), think about something neutral but interesting. Like a book you've been reading, or anything that's interesting that would occupy you.
As for thinking more positively, when you have a negative thought, think about why you're thinking it, or where it's coming from. Think about the possible other reasons there could be for whatever you're thinking about. Say you think a guy is ignoring you, could it be he didn't see you? Or he was busy? Etc etc. Then analyze which is more likely, the positive thought or the negative thought. Is it more likely he was ignoring you? Or that he was busy and you're more insecure and self-conscious so you simply thought he was. Then think of situations where the opposite is true. For eg. think of times when he didn't ignore you and definitely paid lots of attention to you. Then replace the negative thought with the positive thought.
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