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writes:More Guy advice. It's all i ever seem to come on here for tbh :\.My ex and I broke up a few months ago. Since then we've been on and off three times and its been getting better between us. I still love him and i am very much in love with him he means everything to me.But recently he has decided that he cant do it right now. That he will want us to get back together but not now, in the future. He says it will be no longer than one year and half. Now we're friends just now, we're staying in contact. He says he still loves me but isnt in love with me and needs time as friends to regain trust that was lost from us breaking up over and over.He still cares about me and complients me and stays over with me.Now what hurts the most is that he is casually seeing another girl. Basically its just physical. But still i can tell she really likes him and i have a feeling that in a few months they will be actually dating. I told him about this and he said "dont worry if we do it wont last, give me 18 months, i promise, i just need time" I want to wait for him. He means so much to me. I just need advice on how to deal with all this :\ Any suggestions, what would you do in my situation?
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (19 October 2010):
When you commit, you commit in the present, not somewhere down the line. You're broken up, he's seeing someone else, what are you waiting for? He can't have you waiting for him, and be sleeping with and dating other girls at the same time. And who's to say that after 18 months you both will feel the same or someone else won't have come along. If you don't spend the time together, it's unlikely that you both will have the same feelings and want to be together.
He's moved on, at least dating someone else. You should too. If 18 months come and you both still are interested, give it a shot then. But don't put your life on hold for such an unsure thing. He sure isn't.
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