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writes:So, i'm a virgin and my boyfriends not. i know it's usually the other way around and all, but not in this situation. he's ate me out, fingered me, and we dryhump all the time. the thing is, i wanna make him really horny. what are some really good ways to? i need lots of tips/advice please?
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reader, daletom +, writes (4 May 2010):
Ummm . . . exactly WHY do you want to get him really horny? To enhance your reputation as a cock-tease? To "prove" that you love him? To let him know that you are ready to give your virginity to him? To "make him" love you?
Are either, or both, of you committed to holding off on penetrative sex? Making him "really horny", for it's own sake, is NOT the way to keep that promise.
Turn-ons are often unique to each individual. They also change from occasion to occasion, so what works today may not have much effect next week. Learning each other's own turn-ons, and to "read" each other's arousal, are things that will happen (well, they SHOULD happen) as you become long-term lovers and experienced with each other.
For starters, try a little "mirroring": return to him, like he is doing to you. If he's rubbing your back, then rub his back. When you want his hands under your shirt, run your hands under HIS shirt. If he's licking you "down there", return the favor. This only works if you two are in agreement about what is, and isn't, allowed.
"CkritAgentMan" and I had almost identical experiences, although my wife and I dated only one year until we exchanged virginity on our wedding night. There WERE times when she wanted it bad, and times when I wanted it bad, but we helped each other keep the agreement. By holding off on the penetrative sex I think we learned a lot about pleasuring each other.
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reader, CkritAgentMan +, writes (4 May 2010):
He's a guy, it's REALLY simple... show up wearing only high heels, a smile and a holding a 12 pack of his favorite beer! My wife was a virgin when we met in college, me 18 and her 21. We dated 3 years before getting married. The first time I ever penetrated her was our honeymooon night, and it certainly wasn't for lack of trying on my part and she really wanted to at other times but she held on for those 3 years. As a result she and I have had more oral sex and manual partner stimulation in just those 3 years than probably the next 10 porn stars lol. There is alot more to sex than just penetration. Don't get in a hurry and just use your imagination. Blowjobs in the car, backyard, pool, in the boat, on the beach... wherever you think you can get away with it. That's sexy in itself and if you crank his engine just at a glance then it really doesn't matter, you being nude and messing around with him will keep his interest. If he is around only to pop your cherry and then leave, then you won't have suffered any great loss anyway!The rest is gravy,CAM
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reader, goowes +, writes (1 May 2010):
 Men like looking at your body so be comfortable, they like scents so perfume, they like nauty talk its hard to do but they like it ask him what he likes. They like girly attire because they are manly. They like confidence and self security, they like all your imperfections, but don't like when you point them out. they like humor and mystery so don't let him know everything about everything, they like to chase women They like classy and trashy and high heels, they like adventure and risk. They like action any manyly jobs or sports get their testosterone moving. They like to be told at start of day what to anticipate later. They like very clean shaven all. they like being told their you know what is enourmous and beautiful and they are master at making you excited and happy. They like thier ego boosted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): You are probably only about 14, so keep your clothes on and wait a few years
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (30 April 2010):
 I'm betting you aren't really 22-25 years old.
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 Try a sexy lapdance, with lots of teasing!
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (30 April 2010):
 It depends on the guy and what turns him on. So don't ask us, ..ask him!
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