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writes: I know this is a bit lame, but I need to know how to flirt with a guy. I have been out of a long term relationship for 6 months now so this is like back to basics/ new to me.I was at a bar tonight and was instantly attracted to the bartender. I am terrible with knowing if people like me, and flirting so I thought I would ask the simple signs. I mean do guys like girls being to forward/ asking them out? And what are the tell tale signs he’s not interested or has a girlfriend.... So a few friends and I went out for the evening and ended up at this bar, he served me a few times and I was just instantly attracted to him, his banter and general personality. He teased me quite a bit and we had a few jokes, but I don’t know if it was really anything, he’s a bartender, I am sure he does it with all the girls. But say he was sincere, if I were to go back, how would I attract him? I would hate to come on to strong, gosh I’m just so out of the loop! Any advice please :) THANKS
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2013): This is probably what I would do but I am in my forties so being that you are younger I would say slip him a note tell him how funny he his. Guys like compliments. Or casually start a conversation about his job like, "You must see lots of people being that you are a bartender." Part of the reason you may be nervous about it is because you have been in a long term relationship. I have been divorced for over 5 years now and it was hard to start dating and flirt with guys. But in order to do that you have to have confidence in yourself. Always look your best cause guys like girls with a nice appearance. And you already have a nice personality, look at how you were talking, laughing and telling jokes. Now being that he is a bartender he might have a girlfriend. So you might have to be ready for that. I used the line on a guy saying, "So you have kids or anything are you married?"Then he will either say yes or tell you he has a girlfriend.Gradually you will gain that confidence to flirt and know that compliments go a long way. Not overdoing them but when you start dating and get into a relationship show the guy you appreciate him. Flirting can also just be eye contact in a subtle way. But if a guy is looking at me and if I want to find out if he is interested is to make small talk. I will just say a simple, "hello" then you can start talking about something he is interested in.
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