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writes:Hi, I'm 17 years old and I'm a senior in high school. My girlfriend and I have just recently started pleasuring each other. I'm a virgin and I've never gotten further than feeling a girl's breasts until now. She says I'm good at fingering her and when I do it, everything goes well. But when she gives me hand jobs, I find it difficult to control myself. I get erections very easily. Basically, as soon as we start cuddling I start to get hard. So when she begins to start touching me down there, I just get so excited and I can't really control what happens. Basically, I cum really, really fast. My friends who have done this say it takes them a long time to cum when they get hand jobs, but for me it takes no time at all. I've tried to contain myself and try to think of other things while she's pleasuring me, but it doesn't work. I know that if we ever get further (such as oral sex or vaginal sex), I will cum even faster than this. I was wondering if any of you have any tips on how to control when I ejaculate any better. Thank you.
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reader, Trans Am Man +, writes (11 April 2010):
 This has happened to me before too. Try going into the restroom and pleasuring yourself before you guys do anything. It'll get hard again when she starts rubbing it, then it should take longer.
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reader, cheated  +, writes (9 April 2010):
very good advice from everyone, i am going to try the edge method so it hopefully helps me. in the beginging i use to last for awhile (5-10 minutes) but no over 15yrs with my beautiful wife i cum within only a couple of minutes...
my problem is the reverse to yours. i to am looking for the fix for "quick cum syndrome" lol.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2010): I think what the others said are all very helpful so instead of repeating them, I'm just going to add a quick point...
You said that you are a virgin...the fact that you are ejaculating as quickly as you are could simply be the fact that this is all new to you. You haven't experimented too much sexually so you get extra aroused now that it's happening. I don't think you need to just jump to the conclusion that you're not going to be able to handle having sex and will ejaculate too soon.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (8 April 2010):
 Don't be so concerned about this; and your "friends" who claim longtime stamina are probably either better experienced or exaggerating. Just be sure to always please the girl first, and then it doesn't matter how long it takes you to enjoy. The quick-trigger release will soon-enough be long behind you, so just don't worry about it now.
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reader, oh_no  +, writes (8 April 2010):
OH man! I feel your pain. When I first starting doing things with my gf the same thing happened. In the begining of our relationship I would need to change my under wear after kissing her good night. One thing I did find out was that me cumming early during oral sex and hand jobs it made her feel like she was doing a good job, but you don't want to cum to early during sex, you want her to get off first. sneak away to the bathroom and masterbate before you start to fool around it was the only thing that helped me. good luck!
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reader, ChristineAvril  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 Pop into the toilet and deal with things for yourself first, it will take the edge off - then think of the forthcoming election and all the politicians lying their heads of - oops, you are from the States, so you wouldn't know about our elections, sorry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2010): I'm a female so I don't really specialize in your area, lol.
However, I have one suggestion that sort of helped me out in that situation. When you masturbate, try the stop and go method. Basically you jerk off until you feel yourself about to climax then stop. Rest for a few moments then do it again. It is called edging. Your holding off on that sensation. Of course at some point you should release lol.
Maybe with some practice of edging with yourself you will build up a stamina and ability to contain yourself to enjoy the feeling of rising to climax when with your gf.
Good luck!
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