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anonymous
writes:This is embarrassing. I am an attractive woman and my boyfriend and I have decided on a threesome with another guy. We've got that part settled. My boyfriend says that since this is a first for us all (the 2nd guy too) we should make sure what we want, in terms of the sex part of it. Okay, not too difficult. He'd like it (and he's convinced me!) to have both of them inside simultaneously (vaginally). I'm excited by that idea but, uh...how should I help them out with that?This isn't rocket science, I know, but nobody ever provided any diagrams of this in high school! I guess there's no way to answer my question without being explicit, but, please, no corny or foot-shuffling answers. I'm asking for tips, suggestions, recommendations, and maybe I'm not the only one who's wondering about exactly how to get two strings through a loop!
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reader, BethBabes  +, writes (26 March 2009):
 i'm sorry yeah but some of you are not even answering her question. she came onto this site for advice so thats what she should get. dont reply with snide comments like 'if you don't care about your personal relationship with your boyfriend then go ahead' each to their own ok? but dont go belittling her for her own preferences and yeah maybe she should think about it more carefully but just give her an answer to her question. some of you people are completely pointless!
oh btw have fun hunny :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): all i say is that it will feel better fo rthe woman if one of you enters the anal cavity and the other enters the vaginal cavity that way it will be easier for you to hit the g-spot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): I agree with the first post about it taking away intimacy but then if you don't care about your personal relationship with your boyfriend then go ahead. There is no way your relationship will have the same boundaries EVER again. Do not be surprised if he then asks you later for a 3-some with a female. How would you feel about him penetraing another woman and really enjoying it. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): In the "swinging" community they say that swing partners may become good friends, but good friends seldom make good swing partners.
A threesome with 2 men and a woman can be PHYSICALLY satisfying to the woman if she can separate her emotions from the sex. The men need to realize that the focus and concentration is on you. Apart from the variety factor it may be very pleasurable to have twice as many hands, mouths, etc pleasuring you at the same time. Or, you may prefer an extended period of sex as the guys take turns with you - one guy is always getting ready and will be ready to continue pleasuring you as soon as the other finishes. Contrary to cultural conditioning, your guy may find it stimulating to watch you respond to another guy.
Keep in mind that everybody will be experiencing not only the anxiety of a new partner, but also the nervousness of a whole new experience - and not an ordinary one at that. It's easier to shed clothing than to put off several millenia of social teachings. Think of the anticipation, fear, fumblings, and charm of two virgins having sex for the first time.
As for taking both guys in your vagina at once - This might better be saved for a later encounter. The two men will definitely feel each other and will almost certainly find it stimulating, which can be a real problem if either is homophobic. Women who experience this usually describe it as a feeling of being extremely stretched and filled. You should have several good strong orgasms before you even attempt it and of course tons of lube. Most people do this by you squatting over one man and taking him into you ("cowgirl" position) then you lean fully forward. The other guy enters you doggy style. The bottom guy won't be able to move - he gets his stimulation from you and the top guy's penis sliding against his own. Each trio needs to work out whose legs go inside of whose, and where to put pillows under the bottom guy, based on their own body proportions.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 January 2008):
 All I can say is "Ouch"!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): So long as you both know the risks threesomes present emotionally, and are both willing to accept it, I'd say have fun.
If you really want to be safe hire a male escort instead of this other guy. The escort is trained and paid to have sex and sex alone. There will be no emotional attachment from either of you.
And it is NOT true that threesomes kill 80% of relationships. But it is true that they increase the liklihood of faliure. So be sure that you are trully ready to go through with this, because doubts will only increase in magnitude if you choose to go with the infinitely less gay FEMALE FEMALE MALE threesome next time (trust me, it beats the shit out of two guys and a girl).
So I hope if you do do it, it all turns out well and you have an amazing night.
As to the physics... just make sure they go slow at first when entering and are more lubed up than a jet engine... because there is no way your natural juices will provide enough slide for two guys at once.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
I feel without judgement that this question can not be answered here, I may be wrong there may be someone who can help advise you but my advise would be to think very clearly as to what you are about to do, If you really love your b/f hunny you could end up loosing him as he could get jealous as fantasy and reality are so very far apart love, The thought of what you will be doing may turn you on but the aftermath could be quite different WITH LOTS OF LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): According to statistics from Relate, it is likely that your relationship will be over within two years of embarking on this path. 80% of relationships fail between couples who follow this lifestyle. Where and how each person inserts their willy is the least of your concerns I should say. I would be much more concerned about where this will lead. Perhaps he is appeasing you by saying it will be a guy this time. Perhaps it will be a hot young girl in their twenties next time and you will have all the fun of watching him enjoy making love to her more than he does you. Sorry, but this stuff is so shallow and yet so destructive, it cheapens love and spoils personal intimacy.
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