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*onnabeamommy
writes:My boyfriend and i are both 15 and have only been dating for 1 1/2 months. we've had sex and we used condoms everytime but i am three weeks late. i've taken 3 pregnancy test and two said negative but the third was deffective. he already knows that i might be pregnant but i know he isnt ready to be a daddy. what do i do?
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reader, gonnabeamommy +, writes (20 February 2009):
gonnabeamommy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice everybody. i go to the clinic tomorrow. but for those of you who were acting all stupid saying 'it takes two to tango... maybe you should've gotten to know each other first... your only fifteen...etc' i already know all that stuff. i know im stupid and i made a mistake but not everything is welcomed into our lives. and who knows maybe this baby could change everything in a positive way. and its up to me who i want to do things with and such
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): If you want to have SEX, then YOU know you can get PREGNANT. I hope ALL teens on this site read this. It's very scarry, and will hopefully wake some up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): chilll.. everyone is saying to get ready to have this baby, but of the 3 tests 2 said ur not pregnant. id calm down. periods suck and the stress ur havin is probably making u so later. ur not pregnantttt.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 February 2009):
 I guess if you have been having sex, then you need to realize that there can be consequences that may not be what you planned. This happens to adults as well. So if you are old enough to be having sex, then you are old enough to take the responsibility and take the heat that comes with it. Sorry, but that's just what can happen.
So it is time to let your parents know what is happening, and about your worry, or at the very least, to ask them to make you an appointment with a doctor so you can be properly diagnosed and treated.
If you are pregnant, then it's only a matter of time before they find out anyway, so you might as well get this discussion over with soon.
Your parents will probably be very angry at first, and very disappointed, but they love you and will want the best for you, so remember that of anyone on the entire planet, they will be your number one supporters.
It's time to be an adult, and face the consequences of adult behavior.
I hope things go well for you. All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): what did you start having sex simply cos you were boyfriend and girlfriend??! Maybe you should have, you know, got to know each other first...considering that you're only 15!!
But i agree with the other people. what's done is done and you both need to accept responsibilty for it, because it takes two to tango!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): You suck it up, have the baby and deal with it. Start planning it now, so you don't panic as much when it does happen - if it happens. Make sure the boy deals with it WITH you. Go to your parents if possible and seek guidance. If not, go to a school counselor and ask them/him/her for advice. Regardless, if you feel this is a mistake and you are pregnant, well, take the responsibility and do the right thing. Even if your boyfriend doesn't want to be a dad, that's not for him to decide anymore, lest he runs out on you and the baby.
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reader, a_seidner06 +, writes (20 February 2009):
 you may not be preggo. You may just be really stressed from thinkin you are, just give it time. Its like this: You are or your not. Stop waisting your money on tests and if you end up bein like two months late, go to the doctor and he will tell you your preggo. If not good for you, well good for you either way lol. Im sure you will have issues to overcome if you are but you can do it. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): well i totally understand u im 18 and have a son of 6 months now yes im a young mother i was soooo scared at 1st bc i was only 17 i had it reall tuff when i was pregnant my mom snapped my dad up until today dosnt talk to me and he hasnt even met my babys dad hes still mad about it but u know really no one is really ready to be a mom or daddy everyone learns if u want that baby dont let no one tell u other wise and if u dont i completly understand i think that u should talk to ur parents about it and make a desicion dont be afraid ur totally not the 1st nor the last he should have thought about it b4 he should be a man and no matter how yung he is assume his responsibiltys u shouldnt be alone dont worry everything will be fine....tests are almost allways rite but if u want to make sure the best thing to do is go on the internet and look up close clinics where they do free prgnancy tests thats wat i did and let me tell u its funny how things fall in place now i want my son im glad i didnt abort him i love him with my all and he is my life my joy and only strength and comfort all the strugles and problems i go through now all i do is look at him and rejoice good luck ok....
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reader, killadavill +, writes (20 February 2009):
tell him to man up and quit bein a pussy he did it to so has to take responablity as well as you.if there's anything in this world I hate is boys or men who are afraid to take a lead in a child.im also 15 and I am pregnant for my 2 time.so call your doctor and make an app. for a check up.
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