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writes:Heres the situation.Im 18 and I've been talkin to a guy online, we met last week and we got on real well. He's 32.I spoke to him 3 nights ago and he found out that I was 18.I've been texting him and talking to him online a bit but he's barely talking to me. He's giving me one word answers. He's only been actin like this since I told him my age. I didn't lie to him though, he just presumed I was a lot older - as in 24.I really like him.Is it coz of the age difference and he thought I was older????????????????Or do you think I said something wrong???????????????Do you think I should wait for him???????????Cheers.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (30 June 2007):
It sounds to me he doesnt like the fact that you are only 18. He may not be angry at you for 'lieing' or not being upfront about your age, but more so just doesnt want to go out with somoene of your age, so therefor hes giving you those signals to back off.
Hes 32, so its understandable that he feels that dating a 18 year old may not work out. You are both at such different stages in your life, hes at the age where could very well be almost prepared to get married and have children...where as your 18, most 18 year olds arent ready for any of that, they have so much left to experience and so on.
I know that at a young age older man can seem really appealabel, they are so much more mature then guys your age and they know the right tings to say/do because they have had so much experience, but despite all that there are good guys your age who you could give a chance, ones who wont be at the point where they want to start a family, where they will be at the age where they want to go out clubbing and to parties- the typical things an 18 year old does. Having said that if you're not into those sorts of things there are also guys around the age of 18 who arent into the typical things as well.
So let him go, find a guy who is more close to your age who you will fit better with :) Goodluck
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): Sure, you never lied to him about your age, but you weren't upfront about it in the beginning either. Women always act more mature than men. Trust me, you will have *alot* of life experiences between now and 32 and then you will understand why this is probably not a good match for you now. Also, why would you *want* to date someone who is 14 years older than you? That, in my opinion, is creepy. Take the opporutnity to be young and have fun, not saddled down to some geezer.
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (29 June 2007):
 You've done nout wrong at all, you were truthful, he made the presumption, its his fault. Hes not worth bothering with babe. :)He doesnt like dating younger women obviously, you can find someone better, your own age and will treat you right.Take care love. xxx
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Like everyone said.You never lied, he made an assumtion.I believe you should back of as he doesnt seem to be interested in dationg someone he considers to be a "kid" like rhythandblues said.Also like rhythmandblues said your young find a real boy.
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reader, sixth sense  +, writes (29 June 2007):
He is clearly showing you that he doesn't want to be bothered. Ok you're much younger than him but you are of legal age. He could have at least checked your maturity with conversation. I wouldn't deal with him anymore.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 I think what rhythmandblues2 says is right, there is a huge age difference.
I think you should back off a bit coz it would seem that he doesn't like the idea of going out with someone so young.
Take care.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): You are too young for this man, at your age, 18 and 32 is a huge age difference, you are creeping him out as he apparantly is not into dating children, good for him, move on and stop trying to contact strange men on the internet, surely you have better things to do, where is your self esteem?
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