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writes:I feel lonely. Apparantly I am on the verge of losing touch with my friends. I belong(ed) to a fairly large group of friends, but lately I've noticed that they rarely contact me. It's always me who calls/emails and suggests meeting up. At first I thought we were just all busy with our respective careers, but I realised they still do things together. I'm in a long distance relationship since 18 months, which means I'm away/busy about 1-2 weekends every month. However, I still make an effort to stay in touch with my friends. It's just not reciprocated, and I wonder why. Should I ask them, and if so, how? Or should I just let it be? Any sugegstions are appreciated. D
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 It's probably just a lack of communication between all of you, you say you are in a long distance relationship and are away and busy alot of the time, maybe they have jsut thought that when you are not away and busy you just want to spend time chilling out.
Maybe you could arrange a night out with them all and if they are good friends let them know how you are feeling, they probably have not even realised,
Take care.x.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (29 June 2007):
It's probably just a lack of communication between all of you, you say you are in a long distance relationship and are away and busy alot of the time, maybe they have jsut thought that when you are not away and busy you just want to spend time chilling out.
Maybe you could arrange a night out with them all and if they are good friends let them know how you are feeling, they probably have not even realised,
Take care.x.
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reader, Beckto +, writes (29 June 2007):
 I agree with xSarax. Talk to your pals. Pick one or two who you feel closer with, or who will be honest with you. Talk on the phone if you want, or even send an email. One benefit of an email is that it gives you the opportunity to say exactly what you want to. Try to be diplomatic, but express that you miss them, and feel kind of left out. Explain that you have a hard time balancing your life, your long distance lover, and them. See what they say to that. Good luck. It's good that you feel having friends is important! So many ladies tend to give 100% of their time to the lover and forget all about their friends!
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reader, xSarax +, writes (29 June 2007):
 I would talk to your friends about it, because thats what they should be - friends.
Sometimes I feel the same way, but i suppose that on occasions I've give my love life lots of attention and then neglected my friends.
Everyone needs to find a balance in which they spend time with their partner and time with their friends.
But from what you have said its like they don't want to know you and of course this is getting you down.
I'd confront them about what they have been doing ( because they might not have realised) and explain how you feel.
If they are real friends then they will take this on board and appologise for their behaviour and comfort you. If they don't then they themselves are not worth knowing.
Best of luck x
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