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writes:Okay.... I'm looking for some positive advice on a delicate situation that's developed. Steve, my dorm-mate and i are sophmores in college. We have been best friends since we were freshmen in high school. We purposefully went to the same college so we could room together for four years. Each of our parents thought it was a great idea, and our first year went really well. Steve is straight and has a girlfriend. He has no reason to believe that i'm not either, although i have come to realize i'm bi. In any case, we agreed early on not to have overnight guests in our room, and we have both abided by this.Steve's younger brother, who is one year younger than us, came and visited the campus several times last year as he too was considering attending here. Some visits were unannounced, and Steve was not always there.I felt a strange attraction to Steve's brother that I hadn't felt before, although I've known him for years. On the second visit, Steve was not there when his brother arrived. We had a long talk, he confessed that he was really there to see me, and knew that his brother would be gone. He told me that he thought he was gay, and had strong feelings for me. I let my feelings be known as well, and soon a very satisfying sexual relationship began. it continued through the school year on his "visits" and on breaks when I returned home.Sorry to be so long winded, but here is my delimma. Steve's brother decided to come to school here with us. Our parents insisted that we obtain housing for the three of us. Steve's brother and I have continued our discreet relationship, as difficult as it has been at times to keep a secret between house mates.Steve's brother has told me that he loves me and is willing to come out when the time is right. I have very strong feelings for him as well, but I don't know how we can keep things a secret for three more years. "Coming out" would be really hard on my best friend, his parents, my parents and who knows who else. Age is not a real issue here, I am 19, and Steve's brother is 18.I do know I care a lot for him. I don't want to lose him either. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2008): Your Story Warms My Heart. If You Care About Eachother So, Them You Oh It To Yourselves To Be Honest And I Think You Two Should Start, Together, With Steve And Explain Your Feelings . I Would Leave The Sex Part Out. It Could Make Him Uncomfortable And Not So Receptive. Good Luck
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (23 October 2008):
 Hi there, I really do think you should tell your parents and your best friend. Tell your best friend he should not tell anybody, except his parents. I think thuogh you should wait a bit before you come out to other people. I would also avoid telling teacher's since they can be trouble sometimes. Good luck!.
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