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writes:Hello im a freshman in high school and I am having some problems with 3 guys... I know it seems like a lot but I really need help because it is taking over my head every single day. (Ill use Boy A, B, and C for their names). Boy A is a sophomore and I have known him for about 2 years and he's really the sweetest thing. He is so athletic, tall and he just basically describes my dream boyfriend. He talks to me most of the time but every couple of weeks there is one time where he will blow me off for something else. However, he tells me he is sorry and had something important to do. I totally understand that but he knows I really like him. He purposely runs into me in the hallways or when I get up at lunch he is already looking at me. The only problem is, is that "he is not allowed to date yet" because it is his parents rule. Boy B is a junior and he really likes me. He invites me places all the time but he's kind of touchy and I am not really into that kind of stuff. I have told him that multiple times but he just doesn't get it through his head. He's really cute and outgoing and is really nice to me but something about him makes me want to go back to Boy A. Lastly, Boy C is a out of town senior. He is NOT into the touchy stuff and he NEVER ignores me. The only big problem is, is that he's going to be 18 in February and i am about to turn 15 in January. I like him a lot too because of his personality and how sweet and athletic he is. Cupid please help me on who to go for!!! Im stuck! Reply to this Question
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (3 November 2016):
 The 18 year old is a man, so he's way too old. At 16 or under, it should be one year older/younger or less.
The handsy boy does not want you for anything other than your body. That's not okay, especially at your age. He's also not an option.
The other boy is the best choice. *However*, he's not allowed to date, so that's it. Also, if you can't choose between three people, none of them are right. When you're mature enough to date, you need to also be able to understand when someone isn't an option because they're too old or too sex-oriented.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 November 2016):
 I agree you are 14... RELAX! There is no hurry to HAVE a BF or relationship.
As for the boys you mention, honestly? IF you can't decide between 3!! boys none of them stand out enough to be worth it.
The B and C should not even be options. A 15-17-year-old (B) boy who is very "handsy" is also looking for more than you can give him. He doesn't understand that you are FAR from ready for that aspect of a "grown up relationship". He keeps inviting you home, my guess for some more HANDS ON time... so not a good choice.
Boy C, this guy is almost 18. While he might be smart and keep his hands off you, he is also at the age where SEX does matter. So in that aspect, he is too mature for you.
Boy A, is not allowed to date, but... he still likes the attention from girls. And honey? No one is so BUSY in life that they blow off a person he/she likes. My guess is that Boy A's parents hope to keep him out of "trouble" by not allowing him to date. So why not simply just be friends?
What is the hurry to date here?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (3 November 2016):
 You're 13 years old. Focus on studies. There'll be plenty of time for boys later on.
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (3 November 2016):
 don,t chase after the boys ,or treat it like door no.1 , door no.2, or door no.3 game of choice.
let the right guy win your heart. present your self with value, self respect. give it time , he will be the one you will want to be with all the time, think of with all your thoughts, and cant get of your mind.
you are young don,t rush things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2016): Boy A is the guy. He's in your age group, but if you're only 13, most kids that age aren't old enough to date. Maybe it might be okay if he is including a group of friends.
Boys B and C are out of the question; and your parents are really the ones you should be asking anyway. I'm somewhat surprised they allow you to date at 13 or 14. If they do, then I'm sure they must have some set rules about the type of guys you can date; or they might seem a bit overly permissive for a girl your age.
A senior is too old and you're legally under-aged. Guys shouldn't be pressuring you for anything, or touching you without permission. Regardless of age.
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