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30-35,
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writes:Referring to the questionhttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-can-i-say-or-do-that-isnt.htmlWell since I posted that a couple of things. We have spent more time together and agree to meet at some point. One day as we were saying bye she was saying how she would like to spend more time with me. Also, I had asked her to join me for lunch sometime, and she referenced that saying more than once that "we should go out for lunch sometime." The way she repeated it and the wording as well as how she said we should spend more time together took me aback. I know it could have been meant perfectly innocently, but it still felt quite "whoa, what did she just say?!". We finally did go for lunch which was nice, especially as she agreed to make time for me even when she had a busy day when we did.Then at one point she did suggest going to the cinema at one point...again could be perfectly innocent. But I dunno.We definitely are starting to have better conversations, and she is very occasionally making better eye contact.I'm still not sure how I feel about her. I know that I really like her, but not sure if I do in what way.And there is the thing that I am almost convinced anyone could never like me in that way due to my being overweight. PLEASE NO WEIGHT LOSS COMMENTS AND SUGGESTIONS - I am working on that myself.No particular question. Just thoughts please and general advice.Also, I have had a couple of times in the past where I have found myself attracted to a female friend without there being any real attraction or feeling in the longer term. Any thoughts on how to deal with this if something similar seems to be happening now or in the future?
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reader, _Princess_  +, writes (13 October 2008):
I have read both this and your last question and it seems pretty clear to me that you both like eachother, I think that you need to have a frank and honest conversation with both yourself and her. Ask yourself if you like her more then a friend, if you do then tell her! You have nothing to lose! If you dont like her more then a friend then carry on doing things together and just be friends.
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