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30-35,
*ngel16
writes:Well last year I was with a lad for 8 months, he told me he was in love with me and we were so close, it was amazing. He was my boyfriend and my best friend and made me feel the happiest person in the world. We split up after a few arguments, then I found out a week later he was with someone else. That was in November. Since then it's been 11 months, they are still together, and for those 11 months, he has carried on sleeping with me, as he "loves the sex". I just can't seem to be able to say no to him, I wish I could as he has messed me up so much. I also find it hard dealing with food since we split. I don't have an eating disorder but something is wrong. I can eat lots, but then as I do something is telling me I need to stop. I have gotten so close to making myself sick, but can never bring myself to go all the way. I also try starving myself but I have no willpower and give in. It makes me so mad. I hate how I look and feel but I have no control over it. How my ex is treating me and how hurt I felt when we split has made me so afraid of falling in love again, or taking any sort of chances with other lads. I need to move on, I just can't do it. I miss him, and how things used to be. I'm only 16, I feel stupid for the fact I was saying I was in love, but he was a big part of me and I really thought I was. Someone help please!
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reader, Amber37 +, writes (13 October 2008):
Sweetheart it won't get any easier unless you take the above advice. I am going through the same thing at 37 can you believe? Look at my post 'Can someone please explain his behaviour?' so know you are not alone. Thankfully being a bit older I did not let this drag on for more than a single week. It is really hard sweetie to come to terms with the fact that someone you care about and have invested time and energy in is so shallow and thinks of you in this way but facing it is the only way forward and just take each day at a time. I really do empathise Hon, I'm there with you.
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reader, treats  +, writes (13 October 2008):
you need to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself is he really worth it. He's degrading you as a woman and as human being. He's only using you for your body. Sorry to be blunt but that's the truth. You need to stop talking to him completely take time for yourself. He won't be there for you if anything happens. He doesn't care for you. You need to care for yourself sweetheart. You're soo young and beautiful. love yourself and you will find the right man to love you. and with the food issue try to cut back and try exercising. find something else to hold on too beside food.
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reader, ilikeboys +, writes (13 October 2008):
if he is still sleeping with you, it just means he wants sex from you.
if he is going out with you, then he likes you.
guys can be really hard to read,
find some one else!!!
it will preoccupy your time, and who knows?!
maybe he will be even better for you.
n_n
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