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writes: I was with my ex for 9 months and we were so happy together. He moved in with me and my family, and nothing could have been better. We then started to argue about silly things constantly. Then we would make up and our love seemed to be much stronger every time we argued. We then had a massive bust up which lead to him leaving me. This was nearly two years ago, we went through lots of things together, some good, some bad. He was the only person I've ever slept with and can't for some reason bring myself to sleep with anyone else. I can't seem to move on and I think about him 24/7. We still talk now and again (when he can be bothered). I went away with him one weekend a few weeks ago and he told me he really missed me and wanted to try again. Once we came back, he hardly spoke to me and he only speaks to me if I ring him. I'm fed up of having to do all the running. Please help me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2005): Wow, don't I agree 100%. When I broke up with my ex of 9 months for cheating, we tried being friends, but when his friends or his new girlfriend (that he cheated on me) was around, he treated me like crap, so I quit coming around for 3 months. One day out of the blue he called me and asked me to come over so we could talk. I did, and we worked everything out and decided to be friends again. He would tell me he still cared for me and wanted to work things out, but he was mad because in those 3 months I got w/ his friend, and he was mad about that. Now he still tells me he cares and loves me and wants to try to work things out, but the only time he calls me is when he needs money or a ride or something. He knows I'm still in love with him, and he takes advantage of that. He knows I'll do anything for him, and he sits back and laughs at the fact of treating me like crap, but thinking I'll always be there. Sounds like your guy is going the same. I know the feeling. You say over and over again, I'm not going to do it again, I won't give him the benefit, but you do it anyways.. Doesn't seem like he's doing any running, so maybe you should slow down and see what you're running past and realize maybe what you're chasing isn't really there.
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reader, doomed_in_mb +, writes (26 April 2005):
I think that you need to forget about this guy. If you two only talk when you make the effort, he is laughing because he knows that he holds you in his hand. I think you should move on, even though it might seem impossible, but believe me, i have been through the same thing. If you leave him alone and show him that you dont need him, he will be back and then it is up to you on how you respond.
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