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30-35,
*ustin
writes:I met this girl at a big bon fire about a year and a half back. we started dating less then a week after we met. we dated for 5 months, she got drunk, cheated and we broke up. almost no contact for a couple of months.we started talking again and she was pretty tore up about what happend. so we bacame good friends again, we would have dated again but i had to leave clear accross the state to work and support my family. i have been here working for over 6 months now. i go back to visit every other month or so. almost every month now but it is an 8 hour drive so it can be hard. we are so happy when we are together and both cry when i have to leave and go back to work. but the last 2 times i have went we have got very close. i just got back from a visit she was very excited to see me so excited in fact that the first thing she did was kiss me and hug me for a few minutes. i have always cared about her more then i can explain. like her boyfriend but also i care for her like a brother i dont understand that part.so the day went on. and we went to a party that night. she got drunk and got a little wild. i didnt drink a single drop because i was her ride home. at the end of the night she was hanging all over this guy and making out with him. me and her brother let this fly for about a half hour and then broke it up. (she does not have much sence when she is drunk). after i got her in my truck and started going home for the night. she calmes down and layes her head on my arm and tells me how she has missed me and still loves me and she didnt know what she was thinking. The next night was great. we watched a couple ofmovies, cuddled the whole time and then made out for a while. she wanted to go further but somthing told me not to. the next day she was super quiet and hardly even talked to me very much. i had to go back to work and took her about 100 miles the direction i was going to drop her off with her dad. and she barley even gave me a hug when i dropped her off. i tryed calling her today and she didnt even hardly want to talk. so what could be going on? i still care about her alot and when im their her family trusts me to watch after her and i want to keep that trust. but like over night she seamed really annoyed with me, and i dont understand it.This made my 8 hour drive back to work really lonley. i got in a wreck that same night and hit my head very very hard. im out of work for 1 month because of it. i called her right after i wrecked and she didnt even believe that i wrecked. once i convinced her that i wasnt lying when she heard the ambulance in the back ground. she didnt even act all that worried i told her i would call her the next morning and let her know how im doing. but i didnt get to and she never even called me. whats going on? its fuckin with my head
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (31 August 2010):
 Let me just say being drunk is no excuse. Girls often blame it on the alcohol, really drunk or not they control they still have control over their actions. Can't handle the alcohol like a big girl, then don't drink.
I am very sorry to heat about your accident that was a crap thing to happen to you but at least you're alive and it wasn't a fatal crash. About this girl, she craves attention why she got drunk and cheated the first time, then was was making out with another guy when she came to the party with you. That's rather rude of her. I'm sure if you would have let her do her thing she would have slept with that guy too. To put this in the nicest way possible, her hormones are raging and she feels the need to enact and satisfy the urge. So when you rejected her, she realized you weren't going to help satisfy her urges and now she's done with you. Bottom line this girl is a slut and if you won't sleep with her then she's moving on to someone who will. Sorry to come off as blunt but she's not worth the gas you're burning to go see her. Move on honey and find a girl who won't pull that kind of crap.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (31 August 2010):
 it could be that she felt rejected that you didn't do more than making out with her, if thats the case then she should realize you were being respectful.
The best way to figure this out is to flat out ask her whats going on.
about the drunk thing though, I've totally been that girl. I went to a party with this guy that I knew had feelings for me and yet I kept making out with some other dude once I was drunk. I knew perfectly well what I was doing, not so sure why I was doing it though. The next day when I sat back and thought about it I knew I wasn't really into the guy who initially had feelings for me who I came to the party with because I would have wanted to be all over him instead of some other dude.
Not saying thats what your girl was doing, but that is pretty similar to my experience.
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