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writes:Dear Cupids. Your thoughts would be welcome. I recently met a lovely guy I used to know years ago and who used to like me then but we lost touch for years and recently bumped back into each other.We have had three great dates, and get on very well. He would like to have a relationship. I like him too and want to continue dating but is it normal that he texts and Whassaps me nearly all day on and off, and then calls me every evening? He starts texting on his way to work early in the morning, then sometimes rings me on the train, then starts messaging me before midday which then goes on and off until he leave work around five pm, then he messages again, then calls me for around fourty five minutes, then it starts again the next day! I do respond each time, and its generally small talk, then we have a proper conversation in the evenings. I am flattered he is pursuing so much, but have not had this level of communication before. Its been aroind ten days since we hooked up and dated.Am I to be a little concerned at this in such early days?! Thanks.x I have not slept with him, but do like him. Am I to be a little concerened about his level of interest at this early stage? Thanks x
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (9 February 2014):
 Still hold off on the sex though (I sound like a Mother, nagging her kid lol), just until he has calmed down a bit and is really letting you know he wants to be with you for real. There are so many posts on here at the moment of ladies who are getting this very full on, excitable behaviour from a bloke and after they have sex, he dissapears.
I know you know this guy from the past, but you can still fall foul of that scenario at this early stage.
You might feel you are holding back the tide, and you want to enjoy the attention, but just take it easy for a few months until he invests a bit more than words.
Lecture over, you can go out to play now :-) xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear all
Thanks for your answers. I guess I should be flattered he is pursuing so much. Am back to work tommorow after some time off, so won, t ne able to respond as much, so will let him know that.We went on anotherc
date last night. We know some of the same people from ages ago. He made a joke about inviting them to the wedding when we get married
He certainly seems keen! Xx
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (8 February 2014):
 No panic please, he may just be over-enthusiast because he considers you as a occurred miracle in his life.
He may be sort of a text-holic too, and it's not so good as people who text too much often develop a certain degree of inability to have real conversations, in face to face.
But without more informations, I would bet on the first hypothesis. Rejoy yourself, you are the center of his world, tastes it as long as it lasts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2014): I'm the anon reader and you are quite welcome.I don't believe in attacking people who post questions or need advice, I
try to be fair and empathize.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (8 February 2014):
There is always quite a lot of contact at the start of a 'relationship/dating/friendship' thing and its fuelled by the excitement of getting to know someone, so you could put it down to that.
Personally it would bug me if someone was making so much contact and I'd probably only put up with it for a week or so before I had to say something. If he's a decent bloke he won't mind you not responding once in a while or just letting him know you are a bit busy. If, however he starts getting miffed that you arnt responding so much or that you want things to calm down a bit, he probably has a lot of insecurity and needs constant reassurance that everything is OK.
Talk to him, don't respond so often but maybe sweeten the blow by letting him know that you'd like to date him. He might relax a little when he knows you are interested in taking things further. Hold off on having sex with him until you are absolutely sure he's for you because we all know how much that complicates things.
Good luck xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2014): its normal
where I am from its usually if a guy doesn't text/call you all the time and you are dating then hes not interested or he friendzoned you.. he must really like you to pursue you.. remember out of sight out of mind...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Anon, thanks for yout answer.It's put my mind ar rest.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2014): That's pretty normal in the first stages. It is flattering to
get that kind of attention. Just take it for what it is and
enjoy it. If it starts to interfere with your schedule then you should just mention it casually. If you are interested in dating him once in a while ask him out and make it a no pressure date so you can talk face to face.
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