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writes: My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and during this time he has cheated with many times, but when i do find out he calls off the relationship them but this always happen after lots of fights and tears. Recently i found out he has been with sleeping with a married woman who is having issues with her marriage and her husband decided she could have sex. When i did confront him he gave an excuse as he always does and this time it was because we broke up for two days..the thing now is he told me he had left her, i found out later he was lying. I really love him and am done with the cheating thing, the lady on the other hand wants to divorce her husband and be with him, she is also trying to make him leave me.I have three options i want to just pack my stuff and leave him with no trace, i try and make him leave her like i have done with the other women he had been with or i just act like i see noting and let him come to his senses. I really need help because i love him very much, i know he does too. He used to be very faithful before and i know if i leave him he will be devastated and miserable. Anyone pls help
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 Stop feeling guilty - this man has not considered you or your feelings at any time while he was cheating on you - why should you worry about him being devastated if you leave.
He has no respect for you and I doubt he loves you...
Time to get out of this relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2010): Dump him now, and let him beg to come back. Save your dignity, since he doesn't have any, and you need to be far, far away from him. Don't ever take him back, since he has no respect now, and won't ever give you respect.. ever. Or do you really think he'll change? I would forget about him, permanently.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 July 2010):
 I don't get it, he cheats on you constantly and you STAY? Are you a masochist? Do you like people treating you like crap?
He is not the only guy out there. You CAN do a lot better, no doubt.
Leave him, be miserable for a little while at least till you realize that YOU DESERVE BETTER. Then it's time to live life.
He may SAY that he loves you, his actions however shows that he doesn't love nor respect you. You are jsut convenient.
Let the married lady have his cheating ass. It wo't be long before he cheats on her or her on him..
Sorry if I am blunt.
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reader, dyeruz  +, writes (22 July 2010):
He cheats on you yet if you leave him he'll be devastated..apparently, so he keeps lying and sleeping with other women because he has absolutely no respect for you and you have absolutely no self esteem, so you put up with the cheating and lying and you've convinced yourself that if you leave this lying and cheating man, it will destroy him!!! Me thinks he has destroyed you, your will that is because leaving him isnt even an option getting him to give up his other women so you can be together is. Terrible shame.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (22 July 2010):
 "i know if i leave him he will be devastated and miserable."
And if you stay with him, you will continue to be devastated and miserable.
How many times does he have to cheat on you before you figure out that this guy is no good and has no interest in being in a committed relationship? You should be chasing him away instead of running off his other women.
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reader, a_seidner06 +, writes (22 July 2010):
 This guy brings a red flag, many actually. Your guy has no respect for you at all and thinks he can walk all over you because you will keep taking him back. Be strong. You should leave him, just pack everything and get out of that relationship as fast as you can. He is having a lot of fun being with you and cheating, but if you look at it, he can have sex with who he pleases while being single! Its kinda like he is doing that now, dont you think? Your already thinking about it. Love is not whether you think you should do something as far as the relationship goes- its a you KNOW type of thing. Dont know if that made sense, but to me it does. For example, if you think about leaving then something is telling you something is NOT RIGHT. Which means this issue is going to bring more havoc into your life. you dont need that, no one does. Good luck girl.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 July 2010):
Girl, will you please run from this man. He will never come to his senses. And he will not be miserable. That's all fake. He does it because he knows you will accept it. Stop being treated like crap, and get rid of this cheating liar! Now! There are so many better guys out there that have a lot more to offer you. This guy has not only cheated once, but many times and even with a married woman. He will never be the man you need. He will just hurt you. Leave him.
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