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writes:I am divorced. I have put my house up for sale. My realtor came up a few weeks ago. He caught me off guard and stated that he was getting a divorce. On Valentines day he sent me flowers. I wrote him a email and stated I do not date married men (fyi he still has a ring on) he wrote me back and said 'wow I never been dumped on Valentines Day" What the hell? NOTHING has happened between us nor is it ever. I am sure it is ego and this man just can not take no for an answer. To write him back is pointless. I am so offended by this. I am sure if I told his wife I would hear a whole different story. I am letting this go and finding another realtor but he is creeping me out. Any Advise?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2012): Get a new realtor.
Notify his boss if he has one.
Notify his wife...so she knows about the divorce.
Protect yourself, does he have keys to your house? Make sure that you know that he cannot have a key to your house.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (17 February 2012):
 yep I'd get another Realtor and maybe if he works for a company report his unethical inappropriate behavior to his boss.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (17 February 2012):
 Well lets hope when he divorces her, she fires him...that way he can't get 'stalkerish' with other unsuspecting women!!!
xx hope you get a good sale!!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 February 2012):
 Ewww CREEPY! You did the right thing. Find another realtor and ignore that man.
I doubt he is getting divorced, I just think that is his MO. What a sleazebag!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): Thank you for all the reply's! It is beyond creepy. The real estate agency he works for is owned by his wife and mother in law! I went to high school with his wife, have not talked to her since than,(small world) yeah I am sure he has done this before. I so do not want any drama I just want to sell my home.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (16 February 2012):
That is a bit creepy isn't it!! Poor you!
Yep just ignore him and change realtor, that should give him the hint. If he persists, then it's harrassment and you can get a restraining order. Seems a bit over the top but some people can get quite obsessive and think they are being cute.Seeing as you don't know anything about him, he could potentially be a threat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2012): Finding another realtor is key. I would email him once more and tell him to leave you alone. You want to have this in writing, just in case he really can't take "no" for an answer; cc yourself, or make sure that your email program saves messages you send.
Change your locks, and make sure he can't access the new key. Talk to your new realtor about that; you don't have to go into detail but explain that he makes you uncomfortable.
He is probably just looking for an affair--but be prepared to get a restraining order if he persists.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (16 February 2012):
 You did the right thing. You made it very clear that you do not date married men and you did not write back to him.
You can't change creepy people, they will always be creepy. So continue on with your plan of letting this go and find another realtor. Don't get further involved by contacting his wife.
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