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writes:I first posted my question on Nov 12th and got a response from richard,,,Pls respond back to me.Ok its day 10 after my last question about this....I miss him like crazy and i did excatly what Richard said to do..not sure if it worked..Yesterday at the gym ..THIS AS NOT PLANNED..my ex was 2 treadmills beside me,,i just start my workout and this guy that has been helping me with arms, comes up to me and stands on the treadmill beside me and starts chatting, telling me his workout was over and if i wanted help with arm we could go now to do it..I glance at my ex and he's fumbling with his mp3 player(probabaly turning down his volume) and i say yeah sure,, so off i got with this guy to workout.. TODAY ant the gym,,my ex gets on the treadmill beside me and taps my arm.... Hey he said,, how are your workouts going?? We had small conversation and i put my headphones.. Question is..is he missing me I really dont wanna read to much into this because i'm scared of giving myself false hope then BAM i find out his seeing someone else...Did he really have to talk to me?? that was the first bit of talking we had since the breakup..HOW do guys THINK???Is there anything i should be doing?? really confused
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reader, Richard_EMids  +, writes (23 November 2007):
 Hi there - yes I remember. That's good that he came to talk to you. Just take it steady, keep going to the gym, but not so you see your ex every day. It will make him wonder what is happening. Don't expect anything more from him than what you've seen so far. He won't suddenly drop down on one knee (well not yet anyway). It's a good sign though.
Just maintain your position for a while now - 7-10 days. Don't see your ex every day at the gym, say 2-3 times a week. If you haven't already done so yet - do something different to your looks. Start feeling independant, and confident. Don't overdo it - just a little. Keep up polite conversation with the other guy in the gym - whether you like him or not - he did you a favour. Smile a lot when you talk to him, watch the response in his eyes.
Meanwhile, start planning something for yourself for next week. Cinema, theatre, ice skating - something - go with a friend - or join a club(I don't know enough about you). This will help you feel a little more independant.
Glad it is going well.
Richard
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reader, rcn  +, writes (23 November 2007):
 I think he's a bit jealous. Even though he's your ex, I can't be for sure if he wants to return to the relationship, but guys to get jealous seeing someone they had intimate times with handing around or being shown interest by another male. You see this a lot in normal animals too, where the male fights over territory to have access to the females.
I'd just ask him, what's going on and see if he has intentions beyond just having jealousy.
Take care, I hope your thanksgiving was good for you.
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