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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Heyy, im 19 and am going to give my boyfriend a hand job for the first time, but im not sure what im doing.I've heard you have to pull back the foreskin, do you have to do this?And also, when you move your hand up and down, do you move the foreskin with the hand? or does the foreskin stay still?Please help!
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reader, Graci +, writes (5 April 2009):
 1Set the mood just like you would for sex. Come on to him like you want to please him, not like you are just doing it to shut him up. Men are very visual and like to see that you are interested and enjoying the act of pleasing him. This makes the experience much more pleasurable to him.2Caress his body in other places before going to his penis. Run your fingers along his body, kiss his neck and chest and touch everywhere but his penis. This builds the excitement and sets him up for a nice shock when you do touch his penis.3Touch his penis lightly at first, like you did it on accident. Rub his inner thighs and slowly work your way to touching just his penis. Touch it with the tips of your fingers, gliding them up and down the shaft lightly (movement is easiest when you keep your fingers/hand on the foreskin). Slowly work in firmer hand movements (imagin gripping something, not squeezing it) and let go, then start again with the lighter. It's good to unexpectedly change things because it gets him more excited if he doesn't know whats coming next.4If you want you can put some water-based lubricant on your hands and then grab his penis. When you give a hand job to a man without any kind of lubricant, the friction can be painful, even later when you are finished so I think it is always best and is easier for you to get into rythm of thing too. Keep the lubricant close by because you may need to reapply. You can buy lurex lube from most large supermarkets or places like boots. They will be next to the condoms. Don't be embarressed because it's normal for people to buy things like that every day and the staff are there to help not judge, so don't be scared! Also, you can buy lots of different type such as tingle which will give him a nice sensation too. But if you do use these make sure you tell him what you're using first so that he doesn't get a fright!5Look at your man frequently and let him know you are enjoying pleasing him and giving him attention, this is really important as lots of girls act like it's a chor. You don't have to act sexy, a cheeky smile is the sexiest thing! Grab his penis and stroke it with one hand, then use both hands. Alternate movements and hands throughout the hand job. Variety makes it more exciting.6Talk to your man and ask him what he enjoy you doing. When he is close to climaxing, he may want you to use the same movement until he is done. Let him know you enjoy pleasing him and talk to him about what you are doing. This can be tough at first so don't worry to much. If you want you could say something like " I like pleasing you" and smile. Simple as that. Just say what ever you naturally like but don't worry if you don't have the confidence to say anything yet.7Stroke his penis in a way that he enjoys most when he is about to climax. Pay attention the head of the penis as this is a sensitive area. Use one hand to stroke his penis and the other to gently massage his testicles. The combination of these two motions should send him over the edge. Continue the same movements until he asks you to stop. Stopping too soon can ruin the feeling for him.I hope I've helped a bit! The most important thing you need to do is communicate with him. Ask him to show you if there is anything he likes in particular and ask if he is enjoying it. Remember, most men are actually just pleased that you are touching them in the first place so don't feel like there is preasure for you to preform the worlds best handjob first time round as you will learn lots about what your boyfriend likes and experience will build up your confidence, all guys are different after all. Also, do not do anything you are not comfortable with. It should be an enjoyable experience for both of you so don't do anything you don't want to do!Have fun and good luck!!!
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reader, Milo-kid  +, writes (5 April 2009):
the foreskin wil stay still. u hold his penis, place your thumb on the tip of the dick-head (underneath) then smoothly pump him. but if your boy is uncircumcised then avoid touchin his open dick-head as it is sensitive to touch, try to use lubricant or his own pre-cum to make ur hand and his penis wet. this wil help to make his dick-head less sensitive when opened.
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