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writes:i'm packing up the left over knick knacks my ex boyfriend left at my place after he moved out for him to pick up this week. we were together for about a year. i've included all his stuff, but also cards, gifts, and any reminders (photos) i have here of him. this is my first break-up, is this what i'm suppose to do? is it too much that i'm also including photos and cards he wrote to me, im not too sure of my motivation at this point, i know with everything that has happened, he's not someone i want to spend my life with but i still care, and i'm pretty sure he's stopped caring weeks ago so he might think i'm just pathetic, what do you think???? what should i give back, and what should i just toss?
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (23 April 2008):
I think you should only return anything of his he left at your place, such as a jumper or whatever. I wouldnt return gifts or photos, that seems harsh and mean in my opinion. And I mean who says he wants to be reminded by those things? If you dont want them then throw them out, dont give them back.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Hi
Any gifts or cards, i would keep, and pics. Anything that is his that he left at yours, i would give back.
Ultimayely, it doesn't matter how anything will come across to him now. Do what feels right for you to be able to move on if thats what is going to happen now.
C xxxx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 April 2008):
 Do as you deemed fit as there are no hard or fast rules,
so long as you feel comfortable with what you are doing.
Some do keep some things back while others don't like to be reminded off .
Actually , what he gave you belongs to you and to asked for them back is poor sport.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwill it be regarded as petty if i return everything, even if he didn't ask for them? i just bare them as reminders and i cant bear to throw them out. so he can do as he pleases.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (23 April 2008):
If he asked, return everything that is his.
If he does not ask, you can keep them if you want or toss them out.
No hard and fast rules.
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