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writes:About 2 weeks ago i met up with a man that i thought was absoloutly amazing! He took me to the beach, we watched the sunset, talked, kissed! We both had an amazing time, he told me that he was so happy to hang out with me and that i was heaps fun, we agreed to meet up again 3 days later. When i tried to confirm the second date he told me that he had too much on at work and that he couldnt. Again after 2 days i asked how things were and again same reply. I complimented him a few times and he kept asking why i thought these nice things about him! Then last weekend after a few wines i sent him a msg asking if he could join me same thing too much on. I sent him a reply saying i just couldnt wait to see him again! Stupid i know i just couldnt help it!! It has now been 4 days and i havent contacted him ive left him alone, but i am trying so hard not to call him!! This guy showed so much potential that something about him has me so hooked! What should i do now? If i decide to contact him again what do i say how do i say it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): You had a lovely evening. But nothing since. I think you have to leave it at that. Don't contact him again even though I can tell you are dead keen to do so. So no - just think to yourself - he had his change.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (1 December 2010):
 Sorry, I don't think that's the reason. You've given him plenty of opportunities and he keeps saying he has to work. Even if that were true, would you really want to be with someone that not only doesn't have the time to date you, but also expects you to initiate everything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe use to work together before he asked me on this little date, and he use to always say to me that he never makes the first move or does anything could that be why hes sort of holding back? How long should i wait before i totally delete him out of my life??
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reader, xanthic +, writes (1 December 2010):
Under no circumstances should you initiate contact again, you've done so several times already and from what I can tell, he doesn't seem as into it as you are. Men like to chase, and by behaving this way early on, he's going to think he's already caught you and lose interest. I don't mean to sound harsh, but it happens.
He could be legitimately busy some of the time, but not all the time. Most men will move heaven and earth to be able to see a woman they're really interested in.
Don't contact him again, let him come to you. If he doesn't, try to move on from it and find someone else to date. There's plenty of people in the world, and plenty of chances to find someone that's into you just as much as you're into them.
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