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36-40,
anonymous
writes:my boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me with my mom we have 3 children together and i love him but can we get pass this can i forgive him and my mother? i do think it was an accendent and it never meant to happend but they hid it from me for 2 and a half years what should i do
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): Working through cheating is hard enough, when it is betrayal by two close people it is awful.
You really need professional help far beyond what anyone here can give you.
Counseling, counseling, counseling, and be prepared for the relationships to be ended in both cases for you to be healthy.
You will have to figure out a way to forgive to be healthy emotionally, but you will also possibly have to sunder the relationships.
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reader, pixiegirls +, writes (1 December 2010):
 Betrayal from your husband and mother will most likely cause irreparable damage to your relationships. The mother-daughter bond can be shaky enough sometimes without having the additional hurt of your mother sleeping with your husband. You may find it in your heart to forgive them, but will most likely never trust either of them again, especially your mother. The conspiracy between both in keeping you from finding out they had slept together has already made the two of them close in their own way, while excluding you. It is a very difficult and hurtful situation to get past easily, but counseling may be a benefit in helping you to cope with feelings that come up occasionally. They may not have intentionally planned on sleeping together, but I don’t know if that is ever an accident, but a choice. Was there only one occasion when this happened?
In trying to work through this, your chances are better in working through it with your husband. It may take a lot more to work through the problem with your mother.
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