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writes:I'm generally quite a confident and outgoing person and have been single for a while. I'm flirty with people in a jokey way sometimes, and there are about three guys in particular I'm more friendly with than others. I don't see it as a big deal cause we're all single and see it as a bit of fun. (I know I'm not making myself look too good here, but it's really not that bad - I'm not a horrible bitch who leads people on and messes with their feelings or anything, it's definitely just friendly and harmless). Anyway, so I've known one of these guys for a few years and recently we've become closer, and I never really thought anything of it ...But last night I found out through a friend that this guy is planning to ask me out. I don't really know what to do - I like him and he's cute and everything, but I don't think I like him *enough*. I feel guilty cause I didn't know he felt that way about me, and I don't want to mess up the friendship by saying no when he asks me. And it might seem like I'm giving him mixed messages, cause of the way I've flirted with him. Eek! :S What shall I do?Thanks in advance xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): Hi, I'm the one who posted the question - I mean ask out as in, to be boyfriend and girlfriend. Not just on a date! That would be fine with me, haha.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2008): So what's wrong with going out with him? It's not like you are obligated to take it any farther. Go out, have a good time, enjoy a free meal/movie, talk about your interests, and see if there is anything in common. If not, wish him luck and part ways. No big deal! He'll brag to all his friends that you two went out, and get a nice boost of confidence for the next girl he asks out.
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