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*cutttluv
writes:Ok so I met this guy at the mall about 3 months ago and we have been talking a lot but were not in a relationship. We have been talking about meeting again. But anyway, he like sometimes stops talking to me for periods of time ranging from like 1 week- 1 month. Then hell start talking to me again. He calls me baby and he is like really sweet. Every time he stops talking to me I feel hurt and used. Is he toying with my emotions? I don't know what I should do. Any advice?
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reader, scutttluv +, writes (15 August 2009):
scutttluv is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses. I forgot to add in my question that he told me he like really likes me.
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reader, noelle23 +, writes (15 August 2009):
He could very well be testing you, which is NOT an excuse for the way he acts. My boyfriend and I have been together about 2 1/2 years now but the year before we started dating was rocky. We would hang out and it would be really nice but then he would quit calling me back and not talk to me at either weeks or a month at a time...sometimes he would even respond with a mean text about how he died or dropped off the face of the earth (just to get me to quit talking to him). I could see something special between us but apparently he had his head up his butt. He drove me crazy because I was getting mixed signals. Finally, after about a year of these games, I gave up and quit calling him and ignored a couple of his texts and calls every now and then and I quit initiating the conversations. I decided to play a little hard to get and see how he liked it. That month he asked me out and we have been together 2 1/2 years. We have had a wonderful relationship and now live together. Sometimes all it takes is a little dose of their own medicine and playing hard to get. And if he still doesn't try that hard for you or buck up then he is definitely not worth it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2009): You are only both friends. It could be a range of things. He may feel you are too good for him and retreat and wrongly communicate to you in this way. Or he may not be too interested in more than a friendship. You need to make it clear that you really like him. And go from there. If he thinks you are too good, he may reject you, then come running after you. He may be very afraid.
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