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writes:Any advice as to why he kept blowing me out.Me and this guy used to work together we got on really well, there was chemistry between us from day one, we arranged to got out but he cancelled on me on the day (this was when we worked together). I didn't speak to him again but eventually I forgave him because we worked together, normally I wouldn't have given him the time of day but I was having a few issues at work and he was a rock for me, his relationship at the time was going through a bad patch. Anyway he no longer works at the same Company but we have kept in touch as friends, HE asked me out again, I wasn't keen but again after a lot of persuading I agreed to meet him JUST AS FRIENDS but again he blew me out. I have come to the conclusion that this guy is a waste of my time and I wont be speaking to him again but why do guys do this? His excuse was lame, he had no intention of showing. Do guys get some kind of kick out of this. A massive part of me wants to send him a message and tell him what I think of him but another part says don't bother. I know he will get in touch and pretend we are cool, I just don't get guys.
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (12 September 2012):
 Nah it isn't a guy thing, it's just him. An undependable person if you will. I've met men and women like this. One guy made plans to come to dinner with me as friends but blew me off because a girl he had a chance of having sex with wanted to go out instead. I did cuss him out because I had been having a bad day and was looking forward to that dinner, not my finest hour or what I would reccomend you to do. Just leave it alone. If he contacts you again then ignore him, he isn't worth the anger or the headache. He certainly isn't a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2012): I don't think this guy is "into you" all that much AND he sounds like a complete jerk. Don't even be friends with this guy---cut all contact with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2012): Guys don't do this OP, but he obviously does. If he had a girlfriend at the time that you first arranged to go out and I don't blame him for backing out, he probably said it to her and she made it clear it wasn't on.
What's not to get? He burned you once then you let yourself get convinced that he wouldn't do it again. Next time stick to your guns OP it's that simple, the second time he burned you was your own fault.
Why did he do it? We can't say and it's completely irrelevant. What's relevant is that he's not worth anymore of your time.
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reader, HotGeek  +, writes (12 September 2012):
Tell him what you think about him, and of course never give him a chance again, however cute/handsome he may be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2012): Hi,
Any guy who cancels on you more than once SHOULD NOT get any more attention from you. Just blank him next time, I'm sure there are plenty more guys who will be happy to go out with you. Join a group/club, go to the gym, or join a dating website and you'll increase your chances of meeting a nice guy. Good luck!
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (12 September 2012):
 He's a loser. Not all men are like this, but avoid the ones that are.
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