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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My friend is strange. Recently I had to end our friendship. Where do I start? When I used to work, "Suzy" would glance at my work from the corner of her eye which got me annoyed - I do not like others looking at my work and then copying it. She would stare at me all the time and I felt very uncomfortable when she did this. Also, if I was looking at her directly, she would look away quickly and then I would find her looking at me from the corner of her eye. Suzy would always say how pretty I look (which was nice of her) but she went over the top as she would say it nearly everyday. Sometimes I would ask her opinion about things and if I disagreed with her, she would change her opinion to agree with me e.g. if I asked her whether she thought a particular teacher was nice, she would say 'No she is very strict and I wish she was not our teacher', whereas I would say 'I like our teacher because she helps me all the time' then she would say 'Yes, actually she is very nice.' When I used to sit with Suzy she would sit very close to which made me feel very uncomfortable and almost like she was invading my space. Suzy would sit very much like a man – her legs separated. Now my friend is a girl and so am I, I am not a lesbian but all these signs are showing me that maybe she is. So after our break up, I have felt very free and happy. I do not want to hang out with her again but I do not want us to be enemies. I am afraid if I talk to her again, she would get the wrong end of the stick and start hanging out with me which I do not want. Let me add that she used to send me nice friendship and romantic messages like ten times a day which is freaky. I know that this is probably confusing and I apologise if it is hard to understand but I need help, what should I do? (I really do not want us to hang out together – I know it is a little harsh but that is how I feel.)[MODERATOR NOTE: Name has been changed to protect identity]
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): To me the answer is the same thing you would do if she were a guy who made you uncomfortable. Avoid her when possible be polite when contact is unavoidable. Do not return texts, e~mails, etc. And do not answer her phone calls. She'll catch on soon.
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reader, LoveIsRough  +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Oh, it looks like this girl has a lesbian crush on you. There's nothing wrong with that. I am straight, and I have had lesbian crushes before that have been on me. Don't be offended--be flattered. Thre's nothing wrong with this.Just act cool, and remind her that you are straight. And hey, if she's cute, why don't you give here one kiss...maybe then she'll leave you alone...that's what I did for a girl, and when I said I didn't have any chemistry, she left me alone...so ...try that.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2009): well after reading this I think you are going a bit too far. If you do not want to be her friend, tell her this way you will both know where you are standing.
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