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writes:Ive been with my girl for just over 7 months now and i love her to bits, but she always says how she doesn't deserve me, and asks; "There are way better lookin girls than me why have you chosen me, wouldn't u prefer to be with them?"To begin with i didnt really mind reassuring her that i only love her and dont want anyone else, but its starting to get stupid now. She says it so often, its like she doesnt trust me which is ridiculous. She can't get over her paranoia. What should i do??Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Ele  +, writes (25 January 2008):
I used to be like that when I first started dating as a teenager. I was very insecure and always asking for reassurance. I didn't think I was very atttractive and yes I did say things like "why are you going out with me?"
Fortunately I went out with some very nice guys who always reassured me how much they loved me and how attractive they found me and over time I got over my insecurities. Just be patient, reassure her, help her to be more confident and over time she will change.
A bad idea would be to tell her that she's too needy and too insecure. That never helps someone's esteem.
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 I agree with Laura1318. TOTALLY! I also want to add... avoid even GLANCING at another girl when you are with her. As insecure as she is, it would hurt her tremendously. Maybe you may want to consider buying her a rose... out of the blue, OR sending her "Love Notes", tell her how beautiful she is OFTEN, and give her a LOT of affection! After a while, perhaps she will relax more.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (24 January 2008):
 Yeah I can see why thats annoying! tell her what you told us, say you love her and she dosen't need to comapare herself with other girls as you chose her!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 January 2008):
 It is not about trust but she has a low self esteem and need more confirmations. If you love her, you will have to tell her a 1000 times if she mentions that. That is the price of your love for her. It is like she wants to be told , that you love her.
Be like an automaton, if she mentions it, tell her you love her and nobody else.Don't get angry with her but be gentle and tender always.
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