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*rBrightside90
writes:Hello,Im in a fight with my girlfriend for three days now. It started with something minor, She was rude and I told her that hurt me, but then she started accusing me of manipulating behaviour in our fights. She claims that im trying to make her feel bad about herself. She told me that i shouldnt be so sensetive, basically; suck it up. When I refused and made it clear what was hurting me, she kept saying i was 'manipulating'.The next day she wouldnt talk to me on the phone, only on instant messaging. I told her that it was not nice for her to not even want to call me. She told me that i was making her feel bad about herself again. She called me immature. I told her that our relationship is going nowhere if she is being so abusive to me, but she simply stated; I dont care, you deserved it.She refuses to talk to me now, about 2 days later she still is ignoring me.so her main issue is me being 'manipulative' in a fight, she claims that this is my way of getting her attention. But I just dont see it, I just try to give my perspective of our issue in a nice and calm way. I am never abusive to her. I am afraid to talk to her now, she makes me veel very upset. I sometimes even start to cry, but she does not care. I really dont know what I should do now.Any advice would be very much apreciated, thanks.Love,
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Let her go. She sounds like she is emotionally abusive. You had a right to tell her your feelings. How would she feel if the shoe was on the other foot?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 July 2009):
Well it's clear that she doesn't want to talk to you or try and make this better.
It's clear that she doesn't care when you get upset.
Maybe you are sensitive and maybe she is very frank. Everyone is different and it could be that you two are just opposites when it comes to this.
I would say that since she doesn't seem to want to make things better, it may just be time to give this up.
Leave it for a day or two and if there is still no word and she hasn't calmed down and agreed to talk, then just end it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, mt7300 +, writes (29 July 2009):
Well, to me she sounds a little immature. If you guys can't talk about an issue than you'l go no where. She wants you to bow down and feel bad for her and not be able to share your opinion. But if she does something wrong you should be allowed to let her know. The relationship can't be one-sided. You guys both have to help each other if you want to keep each other. I don't know what the original issue was, but she needs to 'suck it up' and be able to take critisism too. She can't speak her mind and not expect you to do the same.
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reader, appledapples +, writes (29 July 2009):
just tell her shes' right. Thats what she wants to hear and talk it out. But tell her you are hurt and that the next time you have an argument like that , she shouldn't run off. Because u might not be there for her when she decides to come back.
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