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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Please help me! I need your advice badly.My father has got this “friend” who I believe is a risk for the integrity of my family but my father doesn’t realise that because he is a big hypocrite and a kissass to my father. He believes the guy to be a harmless person who he should help.He’s been around my father for many years and I never really cared about the guy, but now that I’m older faith got me to deal with him without my father’s intervention and that’s when I got to know him and his real personality, and knowing the kind of people he hangs out with I’m sure he poses a threat to my family.I’ve talked to my father about how it, but he didn’t really believe me. He probably thinks I’m just resentful because of the money he swindled from me (but that is the least of my concerns). At first I though he would just be a financial risk for my father as well, and I advised him not to do bussiness with him, or at least keep a close eye on him. He said he would, but everytime I talk to my father or hear my family talking I hear about a new business in which he is involved with the guy.The real problem started when I realised the threat he poses is not merely economical, one of us might actually get killed or kidnapped because of this guy believing that we have money that we actually don’t and my paranoia and common sense tells me I’m the most likely to be the victim since I’m the smallest and lightest.I don’t know what to do and this has me really worried and is affecting my mood too. I’ve talked to my father on several ocassions and it’s been of no use, I’ve talked to my mother too and despite she says that he doesn’t trust the guy very much either, she gets all excited getting presents for him and certainly doesn’t feel the threat is as big as I do.What can I do? Keep telling them to beware of that guy everytime I get the chance, stop try to ignore things and believe that if I’m going to die soon because of my father’s stubborness and exagerated kindness say “so be it”. Be as much of a hypocrit to the guy as he is to my father following the principle of keeping your friends close and your enemies closer? Give my father an ultimatum and tell him that is either the guy or me? Move out of my house to another city and not give my family the adress so that it won’t fall in the wrong hands? Please, any advice will be appreciated.
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reader, femalecupid00  +, writes (13 February 2009):
YEA I AGREE^^^ TAKE ACTION! you've done the right thing by making your family aware of how you feel about this guy. so yes move away for some time so you can be safe your better safe than sorry believe me i wouldnt stick around for something to go utterly wrong. or do a background check on this guy let the police be aware also they could help you find out about his past and if he really is a threat to your family. but give them some evidence to go on. good luck and be safe you are very brave for speaking up!
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (12 February 2009):
 Why you think that this person is a danger to your family??.You don't give any legimate reason why this guy is a danger?. Is it only because he hangs out with certain people that are shady?. If you could give more reasons why you think he is dangerous I could help you more. However if your sure that he can be a danger to your life then you should take all nessesary precautions. You should move away somewhere safe. Take care!
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