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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hello: There is this woman at work who is overly involved with my affairs in the work place. This job is her life and she has to know about everybody and everything. She didn't like the fact that I was closer to our dept manager than she was and she begulied me on that one, took his ear, and threw it in my face in obvious fashion. Now I keep her at arms length. Turns out she told said manager I was not performing very well in the department, (my work ethic is superior and my review was stellar). This woman eavesdrops on my conversations with customers and pretends to do things in my area when I'm having conversations with customers as well. (Noticed by a customer). Recently I was made aware of her additional past malice against me, by another collegue. We have a new manager, and I noticed that I now get less hours than new hirees, I'm presuming she may have gotten his ear? Disgusted and unimpressed I will carry out work place tasks that assist her for the jobs sake, but I share nothing about my life with her. In light of her behavior I have kept things as simple as yes and no. This woman came up to me speaking in a child like voice, told me she has been punished enuff, she dosent't know what she did wrong (lies), told me she misses our friendship and talks (that she betrayed me with). considering everything, not to mention what I have not shared with you about her behavior, this woman is a wack job! I told her that it is what it is,( I was NOT going to give her anything she could 'run' with in the workplace, and so I left it at that, "It is what it is". I have no intension of being a 'friend' to someone who has been so underhanded since my arrival, and strangely interested in me, almost obsessive.She knows exactly what she has done, she just dosen't know what I know of it, and I'm certain there is more. She has the ear of my managers, One who calls himself a friend of mine, as we do go hang out sometimes after work with others etc...and the other runs the schedule, and now I find perhaps a presumptuous coincidence as to why I'm gettting less hours than the new hirees. I'm strong enuff to say hello to her or respond to her hello, and leave it at that, I just have NEVER experienced anything like this, as I always have worked for myself, and now I'm in a workplace environment. What is this woman deal. She's like almost 50 years old or something. On a personal level, she is transparent to me,and I'm NOT interested in 'friends' like that. There is a beautiful saying an Aramaic friend of mine uses. "Don't tell me who YOU are, I WILL TELL YOU who YOU ARE!". (even in mere observation) This woman has shown me who she is, and I'm just curious about such behavior. Thanks
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reader, Randomizer +, writes (14 May 2009):
She might just be threatened by you. But from what I can tell this has been going on long enough. What I would do is try to keep other coworkers on my side and then talk to higher management. Additionally you may threaten management with a law suit for having a abusive work environment if you have proper some documentation (abusive emails and other records of such actions). However, if everybody is already on her side then it might just be time to search for a different job, since it sounds like you'd feel miserable near this coworker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): She is obviously jealous of you for some reason. Keep away from her and if she continues her attitude go to speak to you're managers, mangager..if that makes sense. Its almost bullying what she is doing to you so you could threaten with that.Good luck.
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