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writes:Okay i tried to research this and i can't find exactly what i'm looking for so please someone who knows just answer my question. Is it true that a man's erection is based on his emotions? I believe they are because i'm only turned on my wife and only because i love her. I was never turned on by anything until i met her beacuase i never had a girl friend and once i met her and started to like her, i got an erection for the first time ever from another person. I think that this is how it works, but i don't see anyone else who works this way. What are the facts behind this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009):
you don't have to apologise on here - (only we do if we say something stupid)
for me its simple:
you love your wife and you lust after your wife - she makes you feel horny. you want to make love to her. That's brilliant and just as it should be in an ideal world.
very few relationships have both.... be happy and enjoy... really enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, you're right i suppose. When i said "lust" in a negative way, i was actually referring to where you said "horny." I'm just tired.
Sorry.
I don't want to be horny and i guess lust isn't bad as long as it comes with love. I would never go lusting over some woman in the street.
It seems we're just conversing at this point and i'm not actually asking anything so sorry about that.
Thanks for your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): you can be in love and lust for your wife... both are valid responses. Lust is not a bad thing :) its why we were given it as emotion. Just so long as we control and use it on those we love is best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Satin I am glad to hear that.
It's not lust for this woman.. i'm deeply in love with her. I mean, she's my wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009):
yes tied into emotions, energy levels and a thousand things we can guess at. Even medical condtions and drugs... in your case, i suspect you are just young keen and horny for this woman. Lust is an emotion don't forget put there to help us mate in animal terms. So yes you do feel emotional about her.
think you need to see a few sites...
http://sexperienceuk.channel4.com/sex-education/programme-6
follow this link - in the middle there is a section "what porn doesn't tell you" follow the penis link .
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI occasionally do if i had a sexual dream about her. And i did ocassionally get hard sitting in class or something, just a maintaince check i think because i wasn't doing anythinig or looking at anything. But i had never gotten one from another person before, from looking or anything. I had never messed around before. And i've never watched porn because the concept repulses me. I had only masturbated once in my life before i met her. It was our of curiosity and i thought it was so weird i never did it again. I feel like my penis wasn't made for me to play with, it was made for her to play with and of ccourse, reproduce with. I'm asking because she almost doesn't believe when i tell her that because i guess it is hard to believe. Most teenagers walk around with boners because of all the sluts at shcool and crap. But i was never like that. Maybe it's where i was raised in my early childhood.. i don't know. There were hardly any people and no media and bery strong moral. Is it though? Is it tied to emotions? Because i mean, if you and your significant other were in a fight and you started to touch him while yelling at him, he wouldn't get hard would he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): do you wake up with an erection? - well thats medical - not emotional....
but generally its a thing called lust - did you not get hard before you met your wife?
I suspect the answer to both the above is yes.
however now i think you are content with what you have and don't want anything else.
- why do you ask?
Star.x.
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