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30-35,
*ice guy in last
writes:ok what did I do to myself? this is pretty much a continuation of my last story. so I tried to leave her behind realizing that all she seemed to get out of me was using me. now I just don't know. so I tried to distance myself from her. I stopped talkin to her and stopped texting her. id get a couple texts from her here and there. id respond but I would keep it short. I would preoccupy myself with other activities to keep her off my mind. then one day she texted me saying she was sorry for being so distant and that she was going thru a lot of stuff, that she needed me to take her to her friends softball game. she brought her daughter and I spent the time watching the child taking her to the park and such. while her mother got drunk with her friends mother. her friend was a guy. after the game was over her daughter was extremely attached to me. by the end of the night the child asked her mother "can daddy come home with us?" this freaked me out as well as her mother. after the game the mother was all over her friend even right in front of me. after she was done I drove her home and took her child in changed her and tucked her in. after she was asleep we went into the living room and she broke down to me. she told me how she was scared she thought she was pregnant due to she slept with her ex after she broke up with him and got with someone else. we talked for the longest time. I was her shoulder. I was completely honest with her all night. now im gettin text how she really appreciates me and what she would do without me. how im the best friend she's had. I can't do that I have feelings for her. I can't go thru seeing her with some other douche bag who won't treat her like she deserves. Im lost yet again nice guy in last. what in the world do I do?
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reader, femgeek +, writes (31 December 2009):
Drop her and find someone who REALLY appreciates you and wants all of you. You're terrific. You can do better! If i were 30 years younger...
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reader, Ignorance +, writes (9 May 2009):
I don't know man, I would dissagree with the previous answer. I would say to distant yourself. Think about it. You love a person who has been in bad relationships, uses people for her own convenience, thus selfish, she had the indecency to get drunk while her kid was there, thus irresponsible and insensitive and have you watch the kid while she wanted to have fun and full around with another guy, thus disrespectfull to you and your feelings. And on top of all she is not into you! That's the worst aspect of female behaviour!
Man, maybe there's a small chance in the long long run she falls for you and appreciate what you have to offer, but until then she will make your life misserable and you deserve better that this. For now she is just using you like you said.
So be a man! Stand up, get up, say "thanks, but no thanks" and LIVE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): DUDE, keep doing what your doing! She loves you man but she obviously wants something to grow with you and her... just be there for her and eventually she will be yours.. how do i know? because iv been through this before.. yes its hard while you wait and watch her be with someone else but leaving her would only make it worse... trust me nice guys do finish last IN THE LONG RUN.
Goodluck.
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