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30-35,
*akob_cg
writes:I posted questions here before and they made me feel better for a while, by saying that everyone my age thinks they're ugly.But the feeling has come back again. I feel bad again because I realize that I actually am ugly. I have a big head and an ugly face and I'm fat (not too fat but enough to look ugly) and I have a big body (a jerk used to call me shrek).I don't have many friends because I'm shy to talk to people in groups since I feel different. I do have a few friends anyway and they don't call me ugly but they still make me feel bad. My girl friends (not girlfriends) always walk a little in front of me. when we're alone and when they're afraid someone might think they're going out with me. This has happened many times and I used to think they're just shy but they don't mind to be seen with my best friend, they even seem to want to. I never thought I would get a girlfriend so I didn't care much to look but then this girl I met seemed to like me and laughed and I felt so good around her and really thought she liked me but then when we had to go to this place downtown she was walking meters in front of me and so fast I couldn't keep up and only turned back and smiled a few times. And then when we met my cousin she was again in front of me with him talking about something that I couldn't even hear. I felt so sad that day and cried a lot. Can you imagine how I feel? Nobody wants to be seen with me.How can I feel better when I know I'm ugly?
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reader, Daniel the love doctor  +, writes (8 August 2011):
 My suggestion to you is find some new friends. You also have to work on your confidence. I know that it could be difficult for you to think positive when everybody is giving you negative feedback. But surf the internet for confidence-builder articles and make a list of all the good things you do like/love about yourself. Realize that you have something to offer to the world...and anybody would be lucky to be in your presence. ;^)
Hope this helps!
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (8 August 2011):
 Hi,
Sorry that you feel this way, and that you cried so much...
This is a very sensitive issue, but honestly this is more in your head that reality.
Of course, some are better looking than others, but looks are not everything. People always have issues with their bodies, and looks. For example, why beautiful women get platic surgery? How you feel is all in your head, and if you are not happy with yourself you'll never be able to feel normal, there's always ways to improve. Getting an new haircut, dress better, etc, but it all doesn't matter if you don't change your attitude. For example, belimic people? They weigh 90lbs or less, but when they look in the mirror, even though they are skin, and bones, they still feel and look fat in their eyes?
Like I said, you can always improve in your looks, but what's more important is to be successful, be happy, healthy life, have a good heart, be kind, and "confidence". Be happy.. don't be so hard on you...
Life is so full of surprises, the best thing is to relax, be good, and things will come your way.. Keep a positive attitude, finish school, concentrate in your future, and friends, girlfriends will just happen. You still very young, don't rush into things. If you continue putting yourself down, negative attitude, hidding, shoulder down, etc, people will not want to be your friend or will not want to be around you. Its not your apperance, but your attitude and behavior. People feel energy...
Be yourself, if people want to be friends with you, good for them, if not? So what! You'll make new friends, people that deserves you.
There are people that are homeless, don't have family, some people have physical disabilities, you are a healthy normal young boy... Be grateful...
Always work hard in your life, being shy is ok, but always try your best to socialize, if you get rejected, its ok, and move on... Rejection is part of life... I just don't want you to feel sad, lonely, or feel you are ugly... I just don't want you to stop living life the fullest...
Anyways, right now this probably feels like the end of the world for you, but as you get old, you'll realize this is silly, will realize, appreciate what really matters...
Good luck! Feel better soon
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