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writes:Here's the story; I was going out with this girl last year, and throughout our relationship I had felt small feelings towards one of her best friends. When we broke up, a couple of days later I told her best friend that I liked her, and that I had felt feelings for her throughout the relationship, and she told me that she had liked me for the last few years. I eventually asked her out on the same day.She agreed to it, and we arranged to go on a date, but a few hours before the date she told me that she didn't feel it would be right to go out with me after i was in a relationship with her friend a matter of days before. I understood, but I couldn't get her off my mind, but I waited about 3 weeks and asked her out again. She again agreed, but this time the relationship lasted 2 days before she broke up with me because she felt things were awkward. What 'things' I didn't really know, as I felt quite good about the whole thing.It's now been about 2/3 months since that happened, and I still really like the girl, what do I do? I find her more attractive than any of the other girls at school, and wouldn't consider asking any of them out but her. We've slowly re-built our friendship since the whole ordeal but I still want her. What do I do?
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 You do nothing my darling. You know there is something called a "bro code"...a brother code between guy friends. Where a guy will not ever go out with his best friends girl....even after they break up. It is just a matter of respect. The same things go with girls...and girls are the more considerate of the two genders if I may say so. She is respecting her friendship with her best friend by not getting involved with you. Despite how much she likes you or you like her, her friendship with her friend means more to her than a relationship with you. And you need to respect that.I say ...take some time away from her for a bit and detox her from your system....try really hard to. Because this girl seems quite adamant that she will not betray her friend like that
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