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writes:i am 18 years old and i have been seeing the same girl for 2 years, and i have noticed that she has no fricken friends! well she does but she never calls them and they never call her. i have alot of friends in a variety of communities and clicks, i like being around people. but it frustrates the hell out of me when im out with my 3 best friends and she is constantly txting me and if i dont respond she gets all offended. even when we r out together she doesnt say a f#$kin word and its so awkward. she has left every single friend she has ever had because she thinks they "betrayed" her. we are so different when it comes to social acitivies and it really bothers me. tonight we r going to a party and i said maybe u should let loose and drink (step outside her comfort zone), well she flipped on me and accused me of trying to change her, i have had enough of this bullshit. to me it seems like she relies on me too much and i dont know what to do, someone plz help me analyze this situation and help me find an answer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): You are 2 very different people - she sounds needy and high maintenance. You are social and laid back.
Sounds like she needs to work on her problems before she can have a relationship - she has trust issues with everyone that must have a reason/cause so needs to get help or work on forming good lasting friendships
I would finish it now as it doesn't make you happy being with her as it stands, explain why in a calm way.Or - if you like her enough - lay down some ground rules and help her be a great girlfriend for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): if u dont like the attitude leave her but if u can live with it im sure u can worki it out
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): okay you need to sit down and talk to her about it. encourage her to spend time with friends or contact people she hasnt talked to in a while and catch up.
I know how frustrating it woiuld be for you. She is basically relying on you for her happiness. Its important to spend time apart too and do your own thing and you just need to show her this.
By reading your post i can see already your frustrated and your starting to resent her for it. Everyones different and maybe just socialising isnt her strongest point, maybe shes really shy.
If you care for this relationship and you dont just want to cut loose your just going to have to calmly reason with her and explain to her that you need your space aswell. If shes really insecure about you going out without her maybe suggest you msg her x amount of times here and there just calmly tell her you cant just reply to her all the time when you are with your mates.
If she doesnt want to agree with you then maybe suggest some time apart, it could make her realise that sharing you with your mates/activities is better than not having you at all.
Goodluck
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